Breastfeeding

WWYD?

My husband had a 5 day weekend last weekend. I asked him if he would help me with a nursing vacation that weekend and with pumping every three hours every weekend (since we've had the double electric pump, so this weekend will be our third weekend). He said he would. We ended up not doing the nursing vacation for reasons I'm not sure of, even though that Saturday morning I asked if he was still up for it and he said yes. He ended up leaving and doing nothing all day....
He hasn't helped me with pumping at all for who knows why (I want my milk back so bad, but I also am not motivated. It's an issue of my PPD and it makes me even more depressed that I'm not motivated to pump. I have help with the PPD, so I should be "getting better" soon from the PPD).

So I'm not sure what I should do. I'm just really upset with him, and I'm tired of him saying "I'll help you" and not ever actually helping. I've told him that I'm very upset with him, to the point of starting to resent him.

What should I do? I'm too tired (emotionally drained is a better phrase) to do this alone, but I'm so desperate for my milk back.  

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Re: WWYD?

  • SkyBeeSkyBee member
    What do you feel he should help you with? Have you tried giving him detailed explanations of what he can do? My husband offers help, but unless I give him specifics, he doesn't end up helping because he doesn't know what to do. 
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  • ObLaDiObLaDi member
    I'm sorry you're going through this. I would start by telling him that you're upset and why, and ask for his explanation of what happened. That might give you insight into how to fix it for next time.

    I agree with PP who said he might need more specific direction. Tell him exactly what you want him to do, including that you need him to be self motivated since you're having trouble with that yourself.
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  • Hugs. I have a DH who will help but needs to be told specifically what needs to be done. It is such a struggle because I see all these things that need to be done and he has no clue. I know it's hard but you have to be specific about what you need him to do. My therapist actually had him come in and we discussed my need for more help, that might be an option for you.

    Can you tell him or write a list of what needs to happen so you can do a nursing vacation tomorrow. One day can help with supply. Also next weekend is a long one so maybe you can take a couple of days to nurse in bed. As for pumping, try to make it enjoyable. I always watch my cheeses TV shows while pumping.
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