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lkmahoney
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New at this...like REALLY new...
lkmahoney
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So new in fact that I've spent the last hour (at work of course) comparing entries in the thread to the glossary just to get a basic handle on the acronyms!
My wife and I (married 12/11/10) will begin the IUI process either tomorrow or Friday when the fertility monitor shows us that steady smiley face. Then it's off to the races, with the end goal being of course a baby, no matter how we ultimately get there!
C (my wife) will be TTC first (whoa - first acronym used!) as she's older than I at 31 (I'm 27) and all initial blood tests have come back just fine, so we're going with no meds and no monitoring for our first few attempts. At our RE (I'm getting the hang of this now!) they recommend 3 IUI cycles unaided if there are no known issues, which there aren't that we know of.
As we sit on the cusp of a process that could go so quickly and easily or so slowly and possibly frustratingly/painful/difficult, both of our heads are spinning with all the unknowns out there. With very few lesbian friends (only know 1 other couple who has gone through this process) I was thrilled to find this board today. C's parents and one set of our closest friends know we're embarking on this journey and are all incredibly supportive and excited, but not being able to talk about our excitement/concerns on a regular basis makes me feel like I'm going to burst! It's great to see we've got a forum here where everyone is going through the same things we are, and we don't have to act like doctors trying to explain it to anyone.
That's all I've got for now - just feel like we're on the verge of something monumental (no matter what it takes to get there) and feeling almost every emotion on the spectrum. Our goal is to remain optimistic and realistic all at the same time, and to enjoy yet another of life's crazy journeys (with the ups and the downs that go with it) together as the best team in the world.
I guess we'll check in at the next TTC thread next week? This is "crazy freaking nuts" as my dear wife texted me this morning. Can't believe we're starting - FINALLY! :-)
Glad to have found this space - hope to learn alot!
- L
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Re: New at this...like REALLY new...
What an exciting time for you and your wife!
Welcome to the board - there is a really great range of people here who have had it go easy/fast to long and frustrating and everywhere in between
- so you have the support of someone who has 'been there' pretty much no matter what path your journey takes. Congrats on the big step you are taking, definitely do the TTC check in next week and welcome to the board!
Me (43) and J (45) - same sex couple. And we don't feel 40+!
June'12 - First RE Visit
Sept. '12 - Tubes removed
Dec. '12 - Donor Egg/Donor Sperm IVF Cycle - 4 good embies!
Dec. '12 - Fresh transfer, BFP! EDD 8/29/13
Mar. '13 - Missed m/c at 16w1d, baby boy stopped growing at 15w4d
Loss due to umbilical cord clot...baby was perfect.
Jul '13 - FET#1 - c/p
Sept. '13 - FET#2 - BFN
Dec.' 2, 2013 - FET#3 with our last chance embie - BFP!!!
Dec' 26, 2013 - hb!!
EDD 8/20/14 with a baby girl!
Little S was born on 8/21/14 - 8lb, 14 oz and 20 inches long.
We live in Seattle and used SRM for our donor egg IVF cycle
Welcome and congrats on starting your TTC journey!
I am relatively new here too - joined the board about 6 weeks ago.
We will be having IUI#3 next week.
I have found the folks here to be very supportive, understanding, and knowledgable -- So I think you have come to the right place!
Me - 30, My wife - 31 , Together for 10 yrs - Married August 2012
5 medicated IUIs w/ RE (March - July 2013) = BFN
Fresh IVF Cycle in September 2013 resulted in 18 mature eggs, 16 fertilized, 12 made it to day 5. Transfer of 2 Grade A blastocysts on 9/15/13, and 10 embryos in the freezer! *****BFP on 9/25/13 - betas: @10dp5dt = 232; @12dp5dt = 465; @15dp5dt = 1,581 *********William George born June 4, 2014*********welcome!
It is an exciting journey to embark on. I'm glad you're taking time to feel the feelings. I hope you have a quick and easy time of it, but if you don't, try to hold on to the excitement you're feeling now.
And I know what you mean about the acronyms. When I first joined the board, I told my partner (Manada--also on the board) that I would not use any acronyms other than IUI. That hasn't lasted.
You do get used to them after a while.
We're queer. I'm 33, have severe stage 4 endo, and had both fallopian tubes removed. My love ("Manada" on the boards, 32) was diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve. We did Partner IVF (my eggs, her uterus). We lost our twins Tavin and Casey at 21 weeks gestation.
Our IUIs
with @Manada: IUI# 1-7 (December 2012- September 2013) all BFN. Tried natural, femara, clomid, puregon/follistim, clomid and menopur combo, both the ovidrel and HCG triggers.
Our IVFs:
IVF #1 my eggs November/December 2013: Cancelled IVF due to poor response
IVF #2 my eggs/Manada's uterus January/February 2014
BCPs and lupron overlap Stimmed: 1/22-2/2: Bravelle and Menopur (dosage ranged from B300 and M150 to B375 and M150 to B300 and M225)
2/4 retrieved 10 eggs. Endo was much worse than expected. Only 3 eggs fertilized; February 7 transferred two day 3 embryos, froze one. All great condition.
BFP eve of 6dp3dt; Beta 1 (11dp3dt): 110; Beta 2 (13dp3dt): 175; Beta 3 (15dp3dt): 348; Beta 4 (19dp3dt): 2222; Beta 5 (21dp3dt): 4255
1st ultrasound (3/6 6w 1d): TWINS!!!! Twin A measuring 6w1d with a heartbeat of 118bpm. Twin B measuring 6w0d with a heartbeat of 113bpm.
***July 18, 2014 we lost our beautiful babies at 21 weeks gestation. They were born too early. Tavin Sara T. and Casey Elizabeth T. are beautiful and precious and we will love them and miss them forever.***
FET #1 December 2014
The acronyms are a lot at first but I am only 2 weeks in and I have the hang of it. I think.
GL with everything. So what do you think you will do to pass the time? I didn't believe that time would move so slow until I am in it now! Soo slow!
Married 7/7/10 - Provincetown MA on the beach -
Reception October 23, 2010 - Martha Clara Vinyards, North Fork Long Island
5/12/13 - 5/13/13 IUI #1 - BFN
6/14/13 - IUI #2 - BFN - 7/17/13 - IUI#3 - BFN Clomid cycle 100mg 08/13 - cancelled bc produced too many eggs. Clomid cycle 50mg 10/13 - IUI#4- BFN. Clomid. Switched Dr in November. IUI#5 11/20 and 11/21 with trigger and clomid. -TWW {\rtf1\ansi\ansicpg1252 {\fonttbl\f0\fswiss\fcharset0 Helvetica;} {\colortbl;\red255\green255\blue255;\red51\green51\blue51;\red255\green255\blue255;} \deftab720 \pard\pardeftab720\sl280\partightenfactor0 \f0\fs22 \cf2 \cb3 \expnd0\expndtw0\kerning0 \outl0\strokewidth0 \strokec2
Married to M and proud mothers to Olivia and Elise (8/19/2014) and to our fur-babies: Capone (pitbull), Jax and Atticus (cats)
TTC with RE since March 2012
3 missed O's, 6 IUIs = 1 BFP then 8 w M/C, 5 BFNs
(2 unmedicated IUIs, 2 clomid IUI, 2 femara IUI)
Shared maternity/partner IVF, transfer #1 BFP!
EDD 11/28/13
Welcome! PP (previous posters) are correct that you will find experiences all over the board! This journey can be so frustrating but it is still beautiful so hold on to the excitement you have now. If you have any questions, just post them and don't be afraid of posting. We are a very supportive group and you will find we are low to no drama here so it's very welcoming.
I am not in ttc anymore as we just had our twins (who can believe they are 15 weeks???) but I am more than happy to offer encouragement, answer questions or just listen. We had a complicated go at ttc that took us almost 3 years so I hope yours is much faster and far less complicated.
Fingers crossed for you and your partner as you enter the world of ttc!
06/12 - BFP!!!!
Beta #1 15dpo - 256
Beta #2 18dpo - 1097
6wk U/S on 07/02 ~ TWINS!!!
EDD 02/21/13
09/10/12 Found out it's two Boys!!!! Sam and Jake
Jacob and Samuel born 1/29/13 at 36 weeks.
Welcome!!! We're in the same boat. Our monitoring appointment is Tuesday, with our first IUIs sometime next week, hopefully.
This is a great bunch of people for support.
See you around!
9 IUIs = 9 BFNs
IVF October 2012: 22 eggs retrieved, 17 fertilized, 5 frozen
ET #1: 1 blast = BFP; Blighted ovum discovered at 7w5d; D&E
FET #1: 1 blast = BFP; Missed m/c discovered at 9w5d; D&E
Karyotyping: normal ~ RPL Testing: normal ~ Hysteroscopy: normal
FET #2: 1 blast transferred 10/25; BFP 10/31!
EDD 7/13/14 ~ Induced at 37w4d due to pre-eclampsia ~ Born on 6/28/14
*Everyone welcome*
Queer coupled and having a BABY with the love of my life! Love my life and wouldn't have it any other way!
First IUI 1/22/2013 BFN: 2/7/2013, Second IUI 2/21/2013 BFN: 3/9/2013, Third IUI 4/23/2013 BFN: 5/8/2013, Fourth IUI 5/24/2013 BFN: 6/7/2013, Fifth IUI 6/24/2013 BFN: 7/8/2013
C began IUI's
7/23/2013 C's first IUI BFN, 8/21/2013 C's second IUI BFN , Took a break in September and October, 11/05/2013 C's 3rd IUI (TWW...we meet again...) BFN, Took off the month to switch to an RE. 01/01/2014 C's 4th IUI...BFP!!!!!!!! Beta #1- 17, Beta #2- 34, Beta #3-140.... 6W Ultra-Sound Reveals nothing in Gestation Sack... Natural M/C at 7W, 2/3/2014
03/21/2014 IUI #10...BFP!!! Beta #1- 48, Beta #2- 416, Beta #3- 1018. GROW BABY GROW!!!
1st Ultrasound 4/22/2014 Baby Squints is PERFECT! Measuring at 6w2d with a heartbeat of 129. EDD: 12/12/14.
Ultrasound at 18 weeks on 7/14/2014. Baby is healthy and growing just as she should!
Check out my blog at: http://journeytoparenthoodandmakingmilk.blogspot.com/
Freshie Girl 9.29.12
Good Luck!! Be patient, lots of waiting and ups and downs
tip: my fertility clinic recommended a tiny book called the "fertility diet"
https://www.amazon.com/Fertility-Diet-Groundbreaking-Research-Ovulation/dp/0071627103
Basically eating unsaturated fats, avocados, nuts, seeds, whole milk and dairy products, tons of veggies and fruits no sugars chemicals or animal meats. It worked like gangbusters! two pregnancies in two tries. I am 31 also and both IUI's were unmedicated. The first ended in a chemical (which my doc said is very normal) the second we ended up with twins! We are now at 19 weeks and keeping fingers crossed for healthy pregnancy and delivery.
I hope the same to you and your wife
Baby Oliver born 11/27/13
TTC stats with donor sperm...
IUI #1 with trigger, 1/4/13 - BFN
IUI #2 with trigger, 2/1/13 BFN
IUI #3 with tigger, 2/28/12 BFP EDD 11/21/13