Sex and Money

ChrisG83

Sex and Money

I have always heard that the two most common things couples fight about are sex and money, do you and DH/SO fit that?

  

stephcarter

Sex yes, not really money.

candaceleigh21

Yes and sometimes. DH is the only income maker so I cannot really fuss about it but I do say something when he spends an obscene amount of money on his big boy toys.

ChrisG83

candaceleigh21:

Yes and sometimes. DH is the only income maker so I cannot really fuss about it but I do say something when he spends an obscene amount of money on his big boy toys.

Yep same here.  

legalbeagle1

Nope: household chores and sleep.

hboo2011

Sex- Fight? Not really. Have to have a conversation about every few months to get us back on track? Yes. He would like it every day. I am very ok with once a week.

Money- No, never. We both were very very financially responsible before meeting, both hate to shop, both have great paying full time jobs, and we're good at not spending when not necessary. We ALWAYS run a bigger purchase passed each other, but those are far and few between (his golf clubs, he ran by me, but that was 2 years ago... Something like, a new fridge that's for both us us, we just discuss it). I hate shopping, so I never spend money like that. If I ever go out and by something, he would never ever even think of commenting on it. Maybe besides to say 'nice new shirt!'. And yes, he would notice, but only because it's so rare that I don't wear sweatpants/hoodies, hahahah.

wesleycrusher

Sex and money- no. 

We argue about stupid shiz, like doing doing work around the house- "you're doing it wrong!"

We also can not leave on a vacation/trip without arguing. I get frantic we're going to be late and DH is a last minute packer plus I want everything just so in the house so I come back to it clean.

lady dixneuf

I'd say scheduling and blended family issues first

money in the sense that H lost his job for a while so issues around that. But  not over you spend this I spend that stuff.

 I don't think we've ever fought over sex once.

PixelPosy

We fight mostly how the other does chores. We both like things done "our" way and have different views of what's considered clean...

Cbeanz

In laws. Almost exclusively.

hilsy85

Nope. We luckily are very financially secure, and we have similar drives in the other dept  

AnotherPreggo

Interesting post.

Like PP, I'd say household stuff.  We don't really "fight" or argue... just nag.

Money... eh.  He makes all the money, pays all the bills, does all the financial stuff. I used to have to make him feel bad for spending on his big toys, but he has gotten super thrifty, so it hasn't been an issue for a while now.

Sex, never really.

wesleycrusher

Kittery16:

We don't really "fight" or argue... just nag.

Same here.  I wouldn't say we fight.  To me, fighting to me implies yelling or being extremely mad. I would say we bicker about things but never fight.

numberonemama

Yes and yes though not a whole lot about money.

cardiganmom

Yes for both, but more so sex. If we fight about money its either a little fight unrelated to money, just caused by stress about money or sometimes I get 3 frustrated with him because he never wants to spend it.

ChrisG83

cerratocc:

Kittery16:

We don't really "fight" or argue... just nag.

Same here.  I wouldn't say we fight.  To me, fighting to me implies yelling or being extremely mad. I would say we bicker about things but never fight.

Good point a out the actual fighting. I wouldn't say we actually fight about money when he buys his toys but it his something we talk about most.
We used to fight about the dog, such a waste of time thank god we don't do that anymore

Wally3

Sleep and time away from family.  I hate him complaining that he is tired when he slept for 6 hours straight and the baby is sick and I got 4 hours in bits and pieces.  We have a sick child you are going to be tired. I don't want to hear about. - If you couldn't tell this was a recent fight.

caseys02

Nope the most common thing we fight about is his family.

alyson686

cerratocc:

Sex and money no.nbsp;We argue about stupid shiz, like doing doing work around the house "you're doing it wrong!"We also can not leave on a vacation/trip without arguing. I get frantic we're going to be late and DH is a last minute packer plus I want everything just so in the house so I come back to it clean.

This sounds exactly like us.

talandree

Sex, yes. He wants it 3-4 times a week. I'm fine with having it once a week. He gets this idea in his head that there must be something wrong with us because we're not doing it 3-4 times a week or that I'm not attracted to him. I just had a baby, I'm with her all day, I would rather sleep than have sex. 

Money, not really. I get discouraged with our money situation sometimes, but we never fight about it.

We usually fight about household chores, our pets and if we're going somewhere and he's taking his sweet time getting ready.  

lovinluke

Am I the only one that this fits??? Yes...to both. Unfortunately.