SS has started T-ball. The have two practices a week for a month, and then two games a week for a month. It's an hour and a half round trip for us from our house, but we meet DH at his work so we only have to take one car instead of two. This makes it more like an hour each way. Most of the parents hang out and watch pratice just like games. We all went last night, but going for an hour long practice means we don't get DD and DS to bed until at least 9:30, their bedtime is 8. DS was so off last night being out of his rountine that I didn't get him to sleep until 11:30. I work at 6 am.
I know it's only for two months, but what is the best balance for this? I think it'd going to end up only DH going to most of the practices, but I don't want to miss the games. I feel like a bad parent getting the two home and in bed so late, especially since it will be semi regular for a short time, but I feel like a bad parent for not being there. WWYD?
Re: How do we balance this?
In no way should you feel obligated to attend all the practices. I think you going home with the younger kids is the best idea. There is no way we could attend all my SKs practices when they were in sports and neither could BM. We did help out with getting them to/from practices if they overlapped, ect.
Go to the games but the practices, I would not worry about.
Last summer DS swam for a team. The meets were 2x/week for 6 weeks and ran from like 4:30-9:30pm.
What worked okay for us was all of us going and taking two cars. DD and I would leave by 6:30ish so I could get her home, fed, and in bed by 8. DH would stay with DS.
I agree with this. As long as one parent is at the practice it's really not a big deal. The games are more important to attend IMO. Keeping the younger LO's on their schedule is critical.
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I disagree with the 'dad is the one boys want there' stance. DS recently did basketball and his Dad helped coach so he was obviously at all practices. There were no real games as this was first year for kindergarten/first graders. I figured I would just let DS and his dad have this thing for guy bonding and didn't attend the first two practices. DS was pretty heartbroken when I didn't show up at the second practice because he knew I wasn't working late that day and felt like I just decided I didn't want to watch him play.
I obviously had no idea he would be that bothered about me not coming, and I made sure I went to the rest of the practices.
Op, I don't think you need to go to every practice and game. Especially if it is affecting the other children's schedule. I do think it is important to try to make it as often as is plausible for your family though. I'm sure it makes your SC feel good to see siblings/parents/step parents rooting for them whenever possible.
And sorry to hijack your post, but... This past falland and this spring SD is not playing any sports because of DH and me BOTH being in school. It was just too hard to thing about swinging. It makes me feel bad. But does it really seem that bad to everyone else? It makes us both feel like we are putting ourselves in front if SD.
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Many time when I take a step back and look at a situation I am overcompensating and putting myself or my other kids though stress needlessly. In your case, as long as your dh is at the practices your Ss should be fine... Tend to the other two w no guilt!