Hello Ladies, would like some etiquette input. My aunt and cousin are throwing me a shower, and Aunt wanted it to be large because she is holding it in a large venue, so I included 15-20 close people from church when I gave her my guest list. The date was decided months ago, but invitations haven't been sent out yet.
A couple weeks ago, a friend from church offered to host a small shower of church ladies for me. I thanked her very much for offering, and explained that church people will already on a list and said no thank you. She was very gracious, and said to have my aunt let her know if she can help in any way.
Today, I realize that the church picnic is the same day and time as my aunt's shower. I called my cousin and told her to hold off on mailing the invitations to the group of church friends until I figure out what to do. I don't want to ask them to decide between the picnic and my shower, and I don't want them to feel as though I should send a gift if they decide not to come.
Would it be ok to call back church friend and ask if she would still be willing to host a shower for that small group? I would normally NEVER ask someone to host a shower for me, but she did already offer so I don't know if that changes things. Is there a better solution that I'm not thinking of?
Re: Can I renege on a "No, thank you"?
Kind of both, but my aunt said she would be fine with whatever I decide to do. I really did want to include them- or at least the half of them that I regularly hang out with outside of church. The other half are all like second mothers to me and I would love them to be included too. I just wish the two were on different days.
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