Someone calm me down

mrsrichey11

I am absolutely FUMING right now. And its for such a stupid reason. I "Like" a photography page on Facebook. She posted a "Mother's Day" Boudoir contest where all you had to do was post your picture and whoever got the most "likes" won. A woman who is struggling with IF asked if it was ok to post her photo even though she is only a mama of a fur baby but is struggling with IF. The owner of the page approved of it and then this happened....

 

I don't know about the rest of you, but after going through two MC I consider myself a "mom" to those babies. I also have fur babies. Am I crazy to be this upset for this woman? Maybe its because I am on CD9 and super emotional? I don't know. But I'm p!ssed, and I know I probably shouldn't be. Thank you for the vent. I hope everyone is having a great weekend so far! 

  

katib77

I'd be pissed too at the comments.  But at the same time, that woman that asked if she could participate in something that was said to be a "mothers day contest" was ballsy for even asking and mentioning her IF status where it could be attacked by strangers.  It's brave, but I would not have done it because I'd expect this reaction.

It's the random public - and they are known for being cruel.  And, as someone who had to be in charge of contests for television stations I will say there are always people that are going to complain on anything because they didn't win, or now have less of a chance due to more participants.  

They are small.  They are selfish.  Don't let them piss you off.  And if you're moved to respond, just know they will still attack.  The internet makes people feel empowered to be azzholes sometimes.   

mrsrichey11

katib77:

I'd be pissed too at the comments.  But at the same time, that woman that asked if she could participate in something that was said to be a "mothers day contest" was ballsy for even asking and mentioning her IF status where it could be attacked by strangers.  It's brave, but I would not have done it because I'd expect this reaction.

It's the random public - and they are known for being cruel.  And, as someone who had to be in charge of contests for television stations I will say there are always people that are going to complain on anything because they didn't win, or now have less of a chance due to more participants.  

They are small.  They are selfish.  Don't let them piss you off.  And if you're moved to respond, just know they will still attack.  The internet makes people feel empowered to be azzholes sometimes.   

 

I didn't respond, but I did message the page owner just to give her a little pick-me-up because she was getting attacked by these women also. Just makes me mad that people can so easily hide behind their computer screen when 99% of them would never confront this woman in person.  

Edit: Also, the other people that entered did not know that she was struggling with IF, only the page owner knew. Not sure if that makes it as ballsy or not. 

vpine

I have unexplained IF and I agree with them, fur babies aren't the same, I haven't gone thru motherhood, never seen a BFP in my life, I wouldn't compare or put myself on same level as mother unless I have one via adoption or my own. Sorry. not everyone will have same opinion, I think she shouldn't have been allowed to enter since it's called 'mothers day boudoir' - which means mothers, not fathers, not children, not animals, not aliens.

Jellyfish42

vpine:

I have unexplained IF and I agree with them, fur babies aren't the same, I haven't gone thru motherhood, never seen a BFP in my life, I wouldn't compare or put myself on same level as mother unless I have one via adoption or my own. Sorry. not everyone will have same opinion, I think she shouldn't have been allowed to enter since it's called 'mothers day boudoir' - which means mothers, not fathers, not children, not animals, not aliens.

The lady was suffering through IF, as PP said, she may have had a few MCs and that would make her a mother. I can't see the picture (work internet blocks it) but I think that it shows how far humanity has fallen socially when women can't get passed their own selfishness over winning a stupid FB contest to allow a woman suffering to enter, just because she is a not mom in the way one would 'normally' define it.

I do have to agree that it was ballsy to put herself out there. I couldn't have done it myself.

Meemeelee

People who haven't experienced IF have NO compassion for it. That's nothing new. These responses are mean-spirited, but not surprising in any way, shape, or form. I totally understand why you are upset.

I have to say, I have 3 pets. I treat them like my kids. I would NEVER think to enter a mother's day contest based on the fact that I treat my pets like kids. If she tried to enter the contest on the premise that she was a mother because of a MC, that's another story. But the pets alone is all we have from this description, and that just doesn't make it appropriate for her to enter.

 We all have probably gone through the "phantom" or "imaginary" pregnancy symptoms, we all want so badly to be mothers, but IMHO this looks like someone trying desperately to make herself part of a holiday that isn't for her. It's sad, and I feel for her. I understand how she feels, I'd love to be celebrating mother's day. I wish people were nicer. But I do think she was in the wrong for entering the contest.

You (Mrsrichey1) WOULD have the right to enter, because you've made it clear: you had MCs and that makes you a mother. Pets have nothing to do with it. Mother's day is for all mothers, not just mothers of the living.