IL's blabbed to everyone!

greenbeanqueen

We decided to tell our families and that is all (parents/grandparents/siblings only) Well my GrandFIL and my MIL have decided to tell everyone. GrandFIL told little cousin who announced on Twitter and MIL even announced for us at church on Wednesday and we weren't even there. Now I have random people approaching my grandparents in public places. We live in a small town and nothing stays a secret. I am just so upset because we specifically said we didn't want to announce to everyone until after we went to the doctor the first time. I dont really know how to handle this, I have made it clear to them that I am unhappy about it but there is no putting the cat back in the bag. <rant over>

MelAnnDi

I would be irate. That's your secret to tell, and it's unfair of them to take that from you. Sorry that happened, but there's nothing to do about it now. Try not to stress out.

esf60

so sorry you're going through that. NOT cool. I'd be so pissed.

PinkinProvence

Try not to stress, hun.  I would be so mad and would probably let them know, but it can't be untold.  Next time, I hope they are not offended when they find out with the rest of the world!

MrsRo731

Yuck- so sorry they did that. That is not cool and it was not their secret to tell. 

MEP923

PinkinProvence:

Next time, I hope they are not offended when they find out with the rest of the world!

So so true! I'm sorry everyone knows so early. Maybe in the future if they can't keep their mouths shut, it might be better to just wait to tell them. I'm sure they were just excited. I had to give clear guidelines with my family too. My family will write to me on facebook and say something stupid like "We are having a BBQ if you want to come but you can't drink haha " Oh how clever. Nobody will know what you mean.

natleilynn

My MIL insisted that we tell their entire family last time. When we lost the baby a few weeks later, we were crushed. Then I flipped out when his aunt posted condolences on my Facebook wall. I finally leveled with my MIL I don't mind my parents and his parents knowing early on. But if she insisted on telling everyone, she would not find out until the first trimester. This time she doesn't know yet but I'm pretty sure she won't be quite so insistent on telling everyone until we are ready.

snowflake350

ETA: phone posted too soon and just read op again. Secrets are tough for some people to keep. Sorry your news is out there already.

TeamAwesomeBaby

When we got engaged, my mom told my husband's whole family (parents included) and my whole family before we got a chance to. So she's basically going to hear the news about the baby, then get a half-hour-long lecture on all of the things she's not allowed to say. Especially because we have to wait to tell his family until two weeks after we tell her. My husband is already nervous she won't be able to keep it to herself. Anyway, all of this is to say that I'm sorry because I know how it feels to have someone treat your news like it's theirs to share. 

Amycakes86

I think it's incredibly disrespectful for them to tell people against your wishes. Regardless of whether or not something may go wrong, it's not their secret to tell in the first place. They've taken that joy away from you. My dad wanted to tell the rest of the family last week, but i managed to convince him not to. I don't want to be pressured into hastily revealing our news. In a weird way I'm kinda convinced there's nothing inside me and I'm going mad. Once I have proof that there's a baby in there at the 12 wk scan, then we'll tell extended family and friends.

greenbeanqueen

Thanks for validating my feelings. I feel like everything I feel is blown out of proportions by my emotions, but I feel like we have been done wrong here. My mom said that next time we should just not tell his family until we tell the rest of the world. We are going to sit them down tomorrow after church and explain how their actions have hurt us and how in the future our wishes will not be ignored or they will be less involved in the lives of us and our child if they cant respect our wishes. 

 

BeachMommy2B

I know it's not what you wanted. But of you didn't want anyone to know then you shouldn't tell anyone. Not even family. It stinks, but there are worse things that can happen.

I'm really laid back on this topic, so I'm sure my opinion is not the norm...

giggles0918

So sorry.  I'd be mad to but I guess you know you can't trust them with a secret. 

agentkitten75

So far we have only told our moms,grandmothers and brothers .it was only supposed to be moms and brothers, but his mom told him she was telling his grandma as soon as I wasn't around so he was forced to tell her, she sort of has a big mouth so I'm not happy about that. We haven't told our dads and my sisters yet because they have loose lips and I'm not ready for everyone to know. When my sisters now hubby asked my dad for my sisters hand in marriage , my dad told everyone before my sister even knew! When she got home, excited to tell us, my dad had a fricken party waiting at the house. She was not happy. I told my hubby to wait until the very last minute to ask my dad if that day should ever come . When he did propose, he waited until the hour before to call him and ask him. I was 10000% ok with that. OP , I'm sorry this happened to you, I would be beyond pissed!