Anyone not using the CIO method?

jasminelorraine20

At 10 months old, I still find myself not letting LO scream for more than 10-15 minutes in his crib. He's not a really big cryer to begin with so I feel like something is really wrong when he screams like that. Am I the only one?

EandIMommy86

jasminelorraine20:

At 10 months old, I still find myself not letting LO scream for more than 10-15 minutes in his crib. He's not a really big cryer to begin with so I feel like something is really wrong when he screams like that. Am I the only one?

first of all your son is adorable! Secondly, my daughter has a similar personality and I usually don't let her cry that long either. I tried it once and she cried over an hour and still didnt stop. Never again 

caballablanca

I'm the same way.  I don't let LO scream for more than 10 minutes because she usually needs something.

EandIMommy86

lindalkelso:

I'm the same way.  I don't let LO scream for more than 10 minutes because she usually needs something.

right. If mine cries, 95% of the time something is wrong. 

jasminelorraine20

TaviaBrad:

jasminelorraine20:

At 10 months old, I still find myself not letting LO scream for more than 10-15 minutes in his crib. He's not a really big cryer to begin with so I feel like something is really wrong when he screams like that. Am I the only one?

first of all your son is adorable! Secondly, my daughter has a similar personality and I usually don't let her cry that long either. I tried it once and she cried over an hour and still didnt stop. Never again 

 

Thank you so much! Same for me too, after that one time I never let him go that long again. I felt so bad.

SunAndRain

CIO isn't about letting your child cry when something is WRONG.  Do people really believe that??

CIO has worked well for us.  DD sleeps through the night, 11 hours.  UNLESS something is wrong.  Though she will occasionally wake up and then soothe herself back to sleep within a few minutes (or within 30 seconds!). Otherwise, I can tell from her cry that something is wrong so I go in to take care of her.

I do know one mom who's son is 4 days older than my DD. He doesn't STTN. She has never done any sleep training. Must suck for her but that is the way she chooses to parent.

Fortunatley my DD never cried as long as you have described. I'm not sure what I would have done if that happened.  When we started CIO she responsed right away to the sleep training.  But I wouldn't let my DD NOT STTN indefinetly without trying everything under the sun, included hiring a sleep expert if that is what it came to.

jasminelorraine20

SunAndRain:

CIO isn't about letting your child cry when something is WRONG.  Do people really believe that??

CIO has worked well for us.  DD sleeps through the night, 11 hours.  UNLESS something is wrong.  Though she will occasionally wake up and then soothe herself back to sleep within a few minutes (or within 30 seconds!). Otherwise, I can tell from her cry that something is wrong so I go in to take care of her.

I do know one mom who's son is 4 days older than my DD. He doesn't STTN. She has never done any sleep training. Must suck for her but that is the way she chooses to parent.

Fortunatley my DD never cried as long as you have described. I'm not sure what I would have done if that happened.  When we started CIO she responsed right away to the sleep training.  But I wouldn't let my DD NOT STTN indefinetly without trying everything under the sun, included hiring a sleep expert if that is what it came to.

 

I get it. But this specific post was for moms that don't use the CIO. I understand already why some women do.

FutureMrsFezz

Right there with ya.  I mean, I don't necessarily think that something is wrong with K sometimes, but I just can't stand to hear him cry.

 

eta- I don't care and actually am jealous of people that have used CIO.  I wish I wasn't such a baby and could suck it up and do it. 

bloverde

I got desperate enough to try it. My 11mo is still up 34 times per night to nurse and I work 80 hours per week. I'm dead on my feet.

He cried for 4 hours, until he vomited, for a solid week. It didn't get less and less like people say. I couldn't take it. I can't do that to him. But he's always been a high needs baby with dairy/soy intolerance, colic, reflux.

caeraRose

You are absolutely not the only one! We have not ever used CIO and never will.

If you're looking for a community, here's one of my favorite blogs that talks a good deal about WIO:

 https://nurshable.com/ 

And here's a WIO group on facebook, if you're interested:

 https://www.facebook.com/groups/waititoutmethod/

cltk12

TaviaBrad:

lindalkelso:

I'm the same way.  I don't let LO scream for more than 10 minutes because she usually needs something.

right. If mine cries, 95% of the time something is wrong. 

This!  We don't CIO.  We're not running to his room the second he cries.  We give him a few minutes.  Sometimes, he goes back to sleep within a minute or so.  If not, we get him.

jasminelorraine20

theresat858:

No, you're not the only one. We never let LO cry for more than 10 minutes and usually more like 5 only if we can tell she's winding down.

ETA:  When my child wants to eat in the MOTN, I feed her. I'd much rather have a happy, growing, healthy child than one who STTN before she was ready.  

She's started STTN of her own accord in the past few weeks. Not every night, but many.  

STTN isn't necessarily a healthy goal for all babies.

 

I agree. Some nights I get lucky when LO STTN, other nights I have to deal with him waking up 2-3x a night. It varies, but I'm good with that.

jasminelorraine20

caeraRose:

You are absolutely not the only one! We have not ever used CIO and never will.

If you're looking for a community, here's one of my favorite blogs that talks a good deal about WIO:

 https://nurshable.com/ 

And here's a WIO group on facebook, if you're interested:

 https://www.facebook.com/groups/waititoutmethod/

 

Thank you so much!! I'll definitely check these out.

laurenhankey

Nope, we never used CIO method and my LO STTN since 12 weeks (STTN meaning w/o waking at all) from 7pm - 7am

tjkdlhb

We haven't done CIO.  I'm not against it if that's what works for your family.  I would be against it with a very young baby. 

DD doesn't sleep through the night, but she only wakes up a couple of times toward the early morning to nurse.  To me, that's NBD.  We'll see what happens when I go back to work on Monday though!

I do let her fuss when I put her down for her nap because usually it's only till I walk down the stairs and then she's out.  It's a different kind of cry than in the nighttime when we put her down.  Usually one of us will lie down with her til she falls asleep in the night.

brparish

You are so not the only one!  My little guy will be 11 months in a week and we have not done cry it out or any other type of sleep training.  We have always been very "go with the flow" with him or what have you and just gone by his cues.  We are to the point where he sleeps through the night, but doesn't put himself to sleep.  We've never been able to put him down drowsy because he screams bloody murder...to me that says he's not ready to be doing that...so I rock him to sleep still....and I dont really mind doing that...he is only going to be this little once so I will take the rocking and cuddles while I can.  I figure when he truly understand what "bed time" is and is able to communicate better he will be able to put himself to bed just fine. 

cltk12

brparish:

You are so not the only one!  My little guy will be 11 months in a week and we have not done cry it out or any other type of sleep training.  We have always been very "go with the flow" with him or what have you and just gone by his cues.  We are to the point where he sleeps through the night, but doesn't put himself to sleep.  We've never been able to put him down drowsy because he screams bloody murder...to me that says he's not ready to be doing that...so I rock him to sleep still....and I dont really mind doing that...he is only going to be this little once so I will take the rocking and cuddles while I can.  I figure when he truly understand what "bed time" is and is able to communicate better he will be able to put himself to bed just fine. 

 

This is exactly how DH and I feel too about 'going with the flow' and when DS gets a little older he'll understand putting himself to bed.  We are enjoying our cuddles and rocking right now! 

kdjudd

We have never let my daughter CIO. I just don't feel comfortable with that. She gets up once a night, but other than that she sleeps great so I'm glad we never opted to do it. 

Starbear06

My DS is 10 months old and we have not tried CIO method or any other sleep training methods. He still wakes up once and sometimes twice a night to nurse/have a bottle. To me, it hasn't been a big enough deal for me to look into any methods yet. So no, you are not alone.

Eilene622

Thanks for posting this.  I honestly was feeling like a loser, like I was the only one who wasn't letting my LO cry it out.  I have had people at work literally laugh (joking of course) when I tell them I haven't done it and he is still up several times a night (nursing 3x and up almost every half hour from 2 am on some nights).  I read the books, but just can't follow through or do it.  I know that nothing is wrong with him when he cries (there is never any tears) but I don't have it in me.  I know he must feell scared, alone, etc. so I cannot let him feel this way in good conscience.

RioG1978

No, and I won't be, either. She's almost 11 months. I adore putting her to bed (rock/nurse her to sleep). And I don't mind getting up in the night. Sometimes it's once, sometimes it's 3-4 times. It all depends on what she's got going on in that little brain/body of hers. I told myself when she was born that I didn't want to look back on this time and have any memories of either of us being stressed, worried, sad, frustrated, whathaveyou. I wanted to enjoy every moment as they came, good and bad. Sleep training would not be an enjoyable experience for either of us, so I decided to leave it on the shelf.

anonsouthernbell

We don't CIO or FIO they are only little once and I want to be able to reassure them/comfort them when they need me.

Alohalove

Nope, I don't use the CIO method and I've never tried.  My 9 month old gets up about twice a night and either she's hungry or just wants a cuddle.  I can't see depriving her of either right now.  She goes back to sleep without a problem in about 10 minutes.  

zbeesma86

I don't let her cry long either.

DD only really cries when something is wrong. If she's awake in there whining or babbling- I'll let it go. Once it turns into a cry I go in and get her pacifier and if that doesn't work I rock her.

I'm not against it or anything.. I've read a lot of posts on here where moms get mean about it! Yikes. But like I've read on here. DD cries when something is wrong, so usually I go to her just to comfort and soothe her

zbeesma86

this-- love your take on it!

alakins

My LO is 11 months, and we have never done any form of CIO.  I nurse her to sleep for naps and bedtime.  I figure she won't nurse forever, and I enjoy the snuggles for now.

camillaandcarson

We have never done any form of CIO.