Back in the saddle

Jzyla

So I'm back. Not that I had such a profound, monumental presence in the past year that I expect everyone to remember me, but I think it's worth mentioning.  I stopped reading/researching/obsessing for a grand total of about 6-8 weeks while we had some travel, weddings and other life events that overshadowed our TTC plans. I didn't think I was capable of putting TTC on the backburner, but I think it lessened the pressure for a little while.

We are officially 3 yrs TTC, which, of course, hurts like hell. I called about our first IUI as soon as we got back from Mexico on Thursday, which we had been putting off due to all the travel plans and such. I found out our lovely doctor is on 3 weeks holidays. Nice. Even if she had been here, there was no guarantee we could have gotten in (wait list), but it's still frustrating. I feel like this is our fresh start - no more interruptions, no excuses. 

I don't think I have any specific questions today (I usually do) but a couple of comments that some of you may have some insight/advice on.

Libido: other than my motivation to TTC during "go time" as we call it here, I have almost no libido. I'm not necessarily depressed and I'm not unhealthy, but from about day 15-28, I want almost nothing to do with my poor DH. This can cause some hurt feelings and resentment, but I'm not sure what to do about it.

New lube: Thinking of picking up some Zestica, to give the pre-seed a break. The only comments I can find on here have to do with spicy testicles, lol. Curious if anyone likes it better or worse. 

BFF: As I had indicated in the past, my BFF was about to have her first baby. He was born a few weeks ago. I was, and continue to be completely envious, but it's been slightly less devastating than I thought it would feel. The only thing I'm finding now is that I think it's going to be difficult for us to stay close as her life changes and mine... doesn't.

 

Well, that's it for now. I hope to become active on this board again and soak up the wealth of information and support. Cheers to a fresh start! 

 

shelbeans82

Welcome back!

I have a friend who got married, went off BCP and got pregnant immediately.  She also got 2 step-kids when she got married that her husband has full custody of.  She has been distant lately, but I know she has a lot going

rox825

Hi, welcome back!

APotterHead

I'm in a very similar situation. 3 years TTC, take breaks for sanity and by 2 BFF's are super fertile and understand that as well.

My DH and I are also going through some libido issues. I know just what you mean. I want to be more affectionate an