More "relaxed" with second child...

basil2008

I keep hearing from parents that they are "more relaxed with their second/third" child compared to their first and that I will most likely be as well. I SO hope this is true because I find being a mother of one pretty dang hard and I don't know if I could handle two in this same manner (I could, but I'd be uptight non-stop). I'm anxious about a lot of things (but I've greatly improved) and I know I need to chill, so I'm really hoping this is true. It would make it a whole lot easier if I could be a little more relaxed about things.

So for those of you that have two or more children, did you find you are more relaxed after your first? How so and why do you think?

sasa625

I am definitely more relaxed with the 2nd one. It helps that she has been a much easier baby since day 1, but I think I would be more relaxed regardless. My 1st had issues with eating, she was late on most milestones, and she was a horrible sleeper. She's

reinedecajun

Without a doubt, true!

megs52881

So, I have no experience with a second child, but I will tell you what my therapist said.  Correct, therapist because I am cray cray from having that first baby.  She said if you have PPD with the first one you most likely will have it with t

C&Csmommy

Oh yes! With my first I didn't want anyone to watch him and quite frankly I was a helicopter parent!
With Camden if someone offers to watch them they don't have to ask me twice!
They play in the play room while I'm cooking dinner or doing som

lkamenko

Yes. That is true. I was more relaxed with the second and third. And not only relaxed I think I enjoyed motherhood much more with the each consecutive child. As for ppd I had it with my first pretty bad and did not have any with my other kids, so meg

megs52881

lkamenko:

Yes. That is true. I was more relaxed with the second and third. And not only relaxed I think I enjoyed motherhood m

basil2008

Thanks! These are great responses!!

As far as the PPA comments, wow good memories!! I have always had a somewhat anxious personality... nothing severe, but it has always been there. After I had DD, my anxiety skyrocketed. My Dr. wanted to put me

sarahandeddiejune212008

I am a lot more relaxed with DD#2.  I think part of it is because I know what to expect.  I was super anxious with DD#1.  I had a terrible time leaving her to go to work, and she was with DH all day.  I'm still super protective of both

basil2008

Jessie11LU:

I think you over analyze everything and worry about every little thing that happens and that's not good for anybod

basil2008

lkamenko:

Yes. That is true. I was more relaxed with the second and third. And not only relaxed I think I enjoyed motherhood m

basil2008

traceyt07:

I would definitely say I'm more relaxed this time around...

The first time I was very anxious about pretty mu

basil2008

briderx:

I feel much more relaxed with DD and I have anxiety issues.  I've had trouble with anxiety on and off since coll

basil2008

mom2JBMS:

lkamenko:

thumper11

I don't have a second but I sure hope that I am!!  I too and super anxious about a lot of things.  Glad to hear there is hope

 

WonderJess

Absolutely true for me.  For all the reasons PPs have mentioned (in terms of how they were more relaxed) but also simply because you just don't have TIME to worry and fuss about every little thing anymore.  It starts with being pregnant and r

reinedecajun

Now that im on my computer I can respond with a better answer.

 

100% I was much more relaxed with my other kids. My oldest I was so paranoid mommy ALL the time, everything had to be always clean and perfectly perfect. Which is sort o

basil2008

WonderJess:

Absolutely true for me.  For all the reasons PPs have mentioned (in terms of how they were more relaxed) but

basil2008

reinedecajun:

Now that im on my computer I can respond with a better answer.

 

100% I was much more relaxed