What do you do.

silvie25mar

When you feel like you've pushed everybody away. Inc DH.

Apparently I'm defensive about everything. I like to argue. I never let things go. I'm moody. On edge. Negative. Always thinking I'm changing but am not. Responsible for every argument and not listening. Everything must go my way.

All this said to me by DH. I know I can be some of them. But he has to take some responsibility for things, doesn't he? Is it really all me??? I don't understand. I don't have a great relationship, particularly with my mother and fear that I'm so much like her that DH feels the way abut me that I do about her.
We got into a huge argument over nothing. And it just escalated and I don't understand. I'm just confused.

I spoke to a pp psychologist at 10 months because I was having a lot of difficulty with having to go back to work. Lots of anxiety. She prescribed me Zoloft but I didn't want to take it. Maybe I need it ??? I know some of these characteristics were before dd came but maybe with hormones they've magnified. ?

I don't know. I feel like he hates me and I feel alone.

brettsmama

I am definitely the more difficult person in my relationship, my DH is much more laid back, which adds to my frustration by the way. I'm starting to realize i can only control my own action/inaction. Did your H tell you those things in the middle of an a

silvie25mar

It was during an argument. But that's the thing. How do I know if I need medication? I know the psyc rec it. But I sometimes feel that they do that to everyone.

sadie+w

I agree that some medical professionals can be too quick to recommend drugs. IMO, I would take Zoloft if I felt I was going thru a rut, and needed help getting out of it. But if I felt my unhappiness/moodiness, etc was due to underlying issues from my p

pitterpatter129

If you take the meds and you don't like the effects or feel they don't help, you can always quit taking them.  Maybe seek some joint counseling with your DH?

 

 

silvie25mar

Ya maybe. I'm just weird with counselling. I feel it's stupid to say. But I feel we're not "that" couple.

Ago

So, you are nixing counseling and medication...what are you looking for here?

Without all the history, I have to ask, is it typical for you to push everyone away? 

silvie25mar

I just feel like any feeling I had about anything ha been completely magnified feelings wise pp.

BeckyTheEngineer

School psychologist here (so I don't work with adults of prescribe anything ever), and I would recommend counseling (individual and couples) as a place to start.  Sure, it might seem awkward at first, but look at your alternatives.  Being unh

court115

I was this way for awhile. I would definitely recommend counseling. Start with individual counseling if couples counseling makes you uneasy. Also, I agree with PP, there is NO shame in taking medication if you need to. I have and it's really helped me

silvie25mar

Thanks for the responses.
I'm not sure what my issue is. It took me a while to reach out and see a pp psychologist with the hospital. It was like 11 months pp. and it is something I had thought about and bailed on appointments long before dd wa

KathrynMD

Even a casual reading on here seems to point to the fact that you need to change something - you've previously written about communication issues w/ MIL, mother and now DH, but you keep blaming others and just saying you are "stubborn" - you need to ch

kross605

silvie25:

The psy that I saw I did t feel was listening and I didn't feel a connection with her so maybe ill ask to see someon

silvie25mar

KathrynMD:

Even a casual reading on here seems to point to the fact that you need to change something you've previously written ab