His ex loves to rub it in our faces that she spends the 400 per month on her partying and theres nothing we can do about it. Her rich mother provides all of their daughters financial needs and wants and refuses to take my hubbys money from her daughter. Her daughter (step daughters mom) pockets it.. doesnt have any bills etc.
We had plans on getting a new and bigger place so daughter could have her own room here etc. and now we cant afford to follow through because of child support. Step daughter loves living with her rich grandma although we do get to see her. We have nothing compared to the grandma though. I really wish grandma would take the child support and put it towards the expenses *she* spends on her no matter how rich she is, at least we would know its going toward her bills or necessities for my step daughter. We also wouldnt mind paying her because paying for daughter is an obligation that we take seriously. Its hubs responsibility to pay regardless. But while grandma takes care of step daughter, WE have to take care of ex... LITERALLY.
Will hubby having another child help lower the amount of support if he takes her back to court to have it modified? A significant amount?
I AM NOOOTTTTTT SAYING DAUGHTER DESERVES LESS, IM SAYING OUR SON ON THE WAY DOES NOT DESERVE LESS BECAUSE OF CHILD SUPPORT AND THATS EXACTLY WHAT HE WILL BE GETTING IF THIS DOES NOT CHANGE! BOTH KIDS SHOULD BE EQUAL!!!!!!
Re: When our baby is born, will my husbands child support amount be lowered?
Regardless of whether or not the money is used or taken... It's still money that your husband owes for his child.
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Youre kidding me right? Im saying we need it lowered so we can live and afford this new baby too or else he will be suffering right along with us. He doesnt have a rich granny to take care of him!
We dont think its grandmas responsib
Its the same written differently, read it again. Maybe i should have put a warning for bitter ex wives etc. not to bother answering lol. I need women to answer who actually know how to read post in detail and relate to what i am talking about!
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Right?!?!
other PPs already answered your question about if child support changes.
My question is, if the mother is not stable enough to pay her own bills and provide for the daughter why don't you and your husband try for custody?
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Here's the deal. When your husband knocked up his now ex, he knowingly made a legal commitment to financially provide a certain amount of money to financially support that baby for the first 18 years of her life.
The ex has zero obligations
I think it's funny that you don't really mind spending the $400 (you say) IF it went to grandma. But since it's going to his ex, you do mind.
And you know what your income & expenses are, so you know what living arrangements you
The answer to your question is that is depends on the state and the formula they use for child support. If your husband's ex isn't taking care of the child, why not request first right of refusal which requires her to give you the child before sh
Wow things got ugly quick!
I worked as a payroll manager for years and I would see all kinds of child support orders come across my desk, including a reduction of one order with the addition of another CS order. I do believe that the
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When I was with my ex I supported all of 4 of us making practically minimum wage. It can be done. Babies do not need millions of dollars to be happy.
I actually disagree with some of the statements made here, and although I won't say how, I'm pretty well qualified to state that there are some misinterpretations of most state's laws regarding child support. HOWEVER, I do not agree with simply t
I sure would be nice if my DH only had to pay $400 a month in child support. Try $1000.
As frustrating and maddening as it is. It really isn't any of your business how she spends it. My SD's mother wanted more CS because she just had another ba