Counting my blessings they are both X's

+just+j+

DD was in kind of a mood when I picked her up from daycare yesterday.  So when she wanted me to call daddy, I did.  She never asks me to call him and she rarely wants to talk to him so I figure I better take advantage when I can.

XH didn?t answer. We left a message but DD was upset and pitched a little fit.  It was directed at me of course because she does not understand voicemail yet or why daddy didn?t respond to her.  That?s fine. I get it. She?s three and she got over it.

In the message I said, ?DD asked me to call you, so I thought I?d better call if she?s asking me to because you know how hard it is to get her to talk these days. Call us back when you get this.? 

No call. 

I get on facebook and see that he has posted ?Having a good day? and another one stating ?Found a new bar that I like here at (insert town here). Meeting new people.?  This was posted about an hour before the call.

I notice that there are 3 comments to the last one, but only 2 listed.  That means XSD commented because I have her blocked. So I unblocked her.  I know ? dumb move.  But I did it. I see that she has commented ?As long as you stay out of (insert bar name here).  You?re 0 for 2 there.?  Meaning, he met and lost/broke up with two women ? me being one ? that he met at this bar.

Whatever XSD.  

That?s a slight comment I can take, but it still bugs me because she keeps making digs when she?s been told to STFU.  She can?t resist yapping even tho XH says he told her to not comment about me on Facebook. Ever.  The little b*tch still does.   It?s a free country, she can say what she want? but XH has told her I am one more lie/false statement away of filing a slander and/or harassment order on her if she ever steps out of line again by threatening me, DD, or makes another false statement about me publically. She used up her last free pass and the next time she makes false statements he told her,  ?J is taking you to court?.  And I will.  He also explained that even the slightest comment about me will only fuel that fire and not help her case, so how about she just keep her opinions and comments to herself and not mention me in any way shape of form?  Ever. 

She apparently can?t do that.  But that?s fine.  More for me ? and every little bit counts no matter how small - to bring to the table in court or to justify why I have her  as restricted visitation in the CO.  And I KNOW that will come up at some point.  She will find out and XH will ask me to give them a pass for whatever reason. And I won?t. EVER.  It?s more for me to show DD what her half sister is really like when XSD tries to lie to DD about me or her father.  Which I know XSD  will do.  XSD will not manipulate DD like she has with others against XH and I if I ever can help it.

As far as XH, I called him twice today and sent an email saying ?Call me about DD?. It?s not to harass him about my annoyance about him not calling DD back, but about the upcoming EOWE.  No answer.   No return call.  No explanation that he?s working a new job, too busy at the bars making new friends, too busy playing Black Ops etc?  Nothing.  So basically I am going to not call any more at this point about it.  Instead, I think I?ll send him a very business like text tonite at 8PM stating that if I do not hear from him by noon tomorrow, confirming we are meeting in (insert town here) at 6PM, then I am not going to meet him at all for his weekend. He will either have to pass on his weekend and wait another two weeks, or he will have to come get DD himself.  

And then wait for the fallout. 

No doubt I?ll be a b*tch for it.

No doubt. 

Oh well.

Don?t care.

BE A F*CKING DAD AND TAKE CARE OF BUSINESS WHEN IT COMES TO YOUR CHILD!!!

As for the title of this post. I'm looking on the positive side and just being grateful XSD and XH both have X's in their titles. 

ReeseFox

I mostly lurk on this board, but I am familiar with your back story. I think you're overreacting here and I do realize it's due to the history with SD, but it's definitely an overreaction.

She didn't slander you, she didn't make a negative c

+just+j+

She was specifically asked  on numerous occassions not to mention me. Ever.  I'm annoyed with her. That's all. But the next time she threatens me, my livelihood, DD, or makes anymore false statements about me publically, this little comment a

Littlejen22

It is possible that he has been 0 for 2 lately at that bar and it was not about you at all. I know what a but your SD is and know she does not know when to shut up but to me 0 for 2 implies faster than your relationship. Either way there is no proof it wa

SimpleJane

I get it J, sometimes you just need to vent, especially about XSD. You feel the same way about her as I do my XSIL, so I know that every little thing feels like a HUGE attack. It's easy to overreact. PP is right though, block her again and just start to l

+just+j+

Yes, I am certain the comment is about me and the other serious relationship he was in prior to me.  Everyone pretty much knows it's about us two.

I just want to know a time as to when he's going to pick up DD.  And yes, it damn we

Karma1969

It takes a lot to actually have someone found guilty of slander. Not only do you have to prove that the statements are false but that they have had an impact on your life mostly monetarily or assassinated your character in a way that your future will be

twister22

Is it too late to change the CO to whoever is starting their time with DD pick her up from the other parent's home instead of meeting halfway? And add a clause that 'if BD does not pick up DD within 30 minutes of the start of his time he forfeits that

+just+j+

CO is set, but the next time I do request a change, ( I know he won't) I will be sure to put that in the 30 minute limit Twister. As far as the parent picks up at the other home, that would be a bigger hassle. We live 2 hours apart and I don'

fellesferie

I used to be kind of like this with XH. I would ask a question or make a suggestion about pickup/drop off, he wouldn't reply, I'd email/call again, he wouldn't reply. I just don't do it anymore. I email one time to ask about his plans, and I leave the

+just+j+

That's what I've told myself Felles.

I really am sad for DD. XSD used to tell me how XH would not show up to get her on her weekends.  XH said that it was because of BM. That BM would say to him that XSD was going to stay overnite at a frien

Phantomgirl

But DD will have one stable parent J.  XSD did not.

You are going to have to work hard to be stable and not let him push your buttons.  Your DD needs you to be the stable, reliable one, that way she will thrive.

Hugs J

Nineoceans

Sad about your DDs call : I wish he would get his priorities together