? for MOMs of 1 toddler +2

smscartozzi

I know it is so early, and I could end up not having twins but....today I was talking with my mom about postpartum life.  I am starting to get scared.  My MIL is 77 and out of the question for help because in 6 weeks we are moving almost 30 mins away from her.  She already gets exhausted after watching DS for an hour, so I can't really count on her.  My mom still works part time and quite frankly, I think she really doesn't want to help play nanny when we get home with the babies.  She was saying my aunt who has twins hired a daytime nurse and my grandmother would sleep over at nights for help.  Am I really going to need this much help?  I know its a long ways away but today really started to panic.  Should we start saving money to hire someone to help?  I am afraid DS might get neglected and I don't want that to happen!!

Sorry, this is a premature freak out, but I think the concept of twins is just now hitting....and I am panicking!

LadyNikon

DD is 3 and about to be 4.  We sent DD to stay with my Godmom for 2 weeks so that we could get into a routine with the boys.  DD does feel that she is neglected at times because sometimes we got busy.  Now that they are older it is less

smscartozzi

Ladynikon:

DD is 3 and about to be 4.  We sent DD to stay with my Godmom for 2 weeks so that we could get into a routine

LadyNikon

Can you toggle between mom and someone else?  Family friends who have children for DS to play with? We live 2.5 hours from all of my family .  So my godmom took her back to Baltimore ( we live in VA) when she came down to see the babies.

smscartozzi

Ladynikon:

Can you toggle between mom and someone else?  Family friends who have children for DS to play with? We live 2.5 h

Mrs.Greg

My oldest turned 2 a couple months before my babies were born. DH took 3 weeks off of work and then went back full time. We sent our oldest to daycare 3 days a week, DH took her before work and picked her up on his way home. The other 2 days that DH worke

SkyBee

I have only had the boys for a week, but so far I have been fine on my own. My mom helped me nest and clean my house and now I just maintain it. When DS 1 naps, the babies are usually asleep and so I nap then as well. At night, DH helps a little, but for

thetwinkies&Vivi

My DD1 had just turned 14 months when the little girls arrived. I had a good amount of help for the first month. Including my husband,mom,and other family. We had help watching them,cleaning,cooking,keeping DD1 entertained.

I was able to sleep,re

tesselizabeth

I have a 2 year old son and 7 week old twins. He turned 2 two weeks after they were born. : I was so scared that it would be terrible and I would be so stressed out all the time. There are definitely stressful moments and I am tired a lot but I really f

smscartozzi

Okay, this is all making me feel much better!  First thing we are gonna do at our house is get a fence for the yard so I can go out back with DS and let him hit the swing set while the babys are just hanging out.  Except its gonna be winter....o

Ourfamilyof5

As soon as my babies hit my 40 week due date, they "came alive" and also became HORRIBLE sleepers from then until 4 months old (when we started modified sleep training). They were up every single hour during the night (wish I was kidding about that) in

kiwi443

smscartozzi:

Okay, this is all making me feel much better!  First thing we are gonna do at our house is get a fence for t