September 2013 Moms

Fear of Coming Out?

So, I'm 17 weeks and still haven't told anyone that I'm expecting except for my Boss and that was only because I had to go on bedrest for a week back around 8 weeks.

It's Easter and I am going to have dinner at my Dad's tonight so we plan on telling him tonight. I feel like I'm going to jinx myself.

I have had 2 losses and the last one I told my Dad at 8 weeks and literally right after telling him, started spotting and miscarried less than a week later.

Am I crazy? I feel like if it was 100% up to me, I'd keep it to myself for my whole pregnancy but obviously that isn't realistic...and kind of un-fair to my family.

Has anyone else not came out yet? Or if you have, were you scared to? How did you cope with it?
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  • I "came out" with Aidan at 12w and he was born at 28w4d and passed away 8 days later. So everyone already knew I was pregnant and the support I received was such a blessing. If MH would have let me, I would have been out as the pee stick was drying jus

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  • I can sympathize. We already came out to our families around 12 weeks, but I made my H tell his family not to talk about the baby at all during Passover. I just am still not ready to have the baby be a subject of conversation around the dinner table. <br
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  • Agree with pp. u are well into your second trimester. Your risk of m/s is significantly decreased. 8 weeks is definitely still too early. I know a lot of girls to miscarried well into their 12th and even 13th weeks, but hardly ever after that.
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  • I was in the same boat as you. I miscarried at 10 weeks right after telling my inlaws and this time around I didn't tell anyone outside my immediate family until I was 16 weeks.

    I know it's scary. But logically I knew there was no correlatio
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  • I understand exactly. When we told everyone about this pregnancy it was a relief to feel optimistic and happy. But I'm still in a place mentally that I'm trying to protect myself from heartache. If that's making any sense. I haven't even looked at baby th
  • I am terrified about sharing the news. We have told immediate family but its getting hard to hide so after a good nt scan i stopped wearing baggy sweatshirts and am just letting people figure it out. I don't pass my loss milestone until next week. Like a
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  • I am 15 weeks and we still have not told anyone yet. We have had two losses, as well, so we are still waiting to tell people. We have decided after my appoontment next week we will start telling people.
  • It's scary stuff, isn't it. First time around I didn't tell my work until I was 20w (lied and told them 18w, which isn't much better - but long story). I didn't want to tell anyone either because it was too scary for me and I didn't want to jinx it becaus
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  • I've told family and close friends but can't bring myself to make a facebook announcement, I don't know why, I waited until just this last week to tell extended family and friends only our immediate families and my boss knew before that. I was planning on
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