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Not so great advice from adult onlies

SoDoMojoSoDoMojo member
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So, my DS is in a co-op preschool and there's a monthly parent meeting I must attend. Last night we had a speaker do an exercise with us regarding "birth order". She separated us up into the following groups based on our order: first born, middle, last born and onlies. We discussed our characteristics with our group to try to determine similarities/dissimilarities that could be because of our birth order (I'm a last born of 2). We then had to share with everyone. 

The speaker said something (jokingly, as the whole evening was light hearted joking with all groups) about onlies being in their own la-la land when they had to present their ideas. One of the onlies piped up with "we don't like being stereotyped like that". Not 2 mins later, the speaker asked who was planning to have an only and asked the onlies to give parenting advice to us. 

Their advice? Have more kids. 

Really?! Thanks for the brilliant parenting advice, dummies. 

Any who, it was annoying. And HELLO! I'm SoDoMojo and I have one 2 year old son. He's pretty awesome. Parenting is hard and I'm quitting while I'm ahead. 

 


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    notkateanymorenotkateanymore member
    Well, I'm an only and if I'm being truthful...I suggest not having an only too. I'm not a dummy, I'm just being truthful.
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    Well, I'm an only and if I'm being truthful...I suggest not having an only too. I'm not a dummy, I'm just being truthf

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    salt78salt78 member

    As an only child parent of an only child, that is incredibly obnoxious and I'm glad I wasn't in that meeting.

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    Well, I'm an only and if I'm being truthful...I suggest not having an only too. I'm not a dummy, I'm just being truthful.</
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    thatoneredheadthatoneredhead member

    I think people have an undying need to tell people how cool they are for parenting the way they do.   

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    I think people have an undying need to tell people how cool they are for parenting the way they do. <span

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    SoDoMojoSoDoMojo member
    The only reason I called them "dummies" is that they said they didn't like being stereotyped. Then they immediately expressed the stereotype that my son would be better off if we "just had more kids". Hypocritical much?

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    imageSoDoMojo:
    The only reason I called them "dummies" is that they said they didn't like being stereotyped. Then they immediately
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    apansey87apansey87 member
    When I was really little I wanted a sibling until I actually saw siblings in action once I went on playdates and whatnot. Then I was like, oh heck no. All of my friends always told me how lucky I was, and my other friends who were onlys liked it too. <br
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    When I was really little I wanted a sibling until I actually saw siblings in action once I went on playdates and whatnot

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    Welcome and ignore the snark. We're happy to have you. I think we've been dubbed "real OAD'ers" or "not on the fence". Somesuch. Whatever, hello! :)
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    Looking past everything else here.. lol, welcome!! 
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    As an only child parent of an only child, that is incredibly obnoxious and I'm glad I wasn't in that meeting.

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    Duh. 

    I've gotten some very harsh pieces of advice from adult onlies.  Its all focused on the negative aspects- lonely moments as a child, parents too involved in their lives, burden of caring for aging parents, etc.

    I personally

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    hopefulmom81hopefulmom81 member

    I think the thread on this board asking adult onlies to share their story is the place to go.  Lots of positive stories after your experience.

    As an adult only, I am having an only.  I absolutely love everything about being an only and

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    imagehopefulmom81:

    I think the thread on this board asking adult onlies to share their story is the place to go.  Lots of posi


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    notkateanymorenotkateanymore member
    OK, I can admit when I was wrong, so I'm sorry I was grumpy the other day. I don't agree 100% with the sentiment that having an only is great, but I don't really hate it as much as it seems either. Sorry for being such a brat. 
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    imageKateMW:
    OK, I can admit when I was wrong, so I'm sorry I was grumpy the other day. I don't agree 100% with the sentiment that
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