s/o phones- family opinion

wesleycrusher

Some people mentioned in looking through phones, reading some not very nice things. So I am wondering- do you expect your DH/SO to tell you what a family member says about you?  And the reverse, do you tell your DH what is said about him?

For example- Long story short, this happened to a friend- before she got married her then-FI's brother said that he didn't think they should be getting married, he doesn't think she makes him happy and her cooking was making him fat (yes. really).  Would you want to know this sort of thing?  

wesleycrusher

I don't think I'd want to know if it was something I couldn't change and wouldn't change the relationship.  If someone doesn't like me for whatever reason, knowing more specifics wouldn't matter.  But I wouldn't want to look like a fool, thin

cardiganmom

I don't think I'd want to know. I probably wouldn't say anything to my husband and the same would probably go for him.

Wally3

I would approach the situation with tact and understanding to try to make it better.  If one family member doesn't like something about DH I would encourage him to focus on something they have in common not the trouble area.  IE " Honey lets not

candaceleigh21

If it was a long term hatred then yes but if its just enough to p!ss me off then no.

CnAnA

I wouldn't want to know, unless it was something horribly awful.  Just conversation between friends/brothers/whatever, where BIL is stating he doesn't like me or whatever, no, I don't want to know. 

Mrs.G123

Oh I want to know and I better hear about it!!! But luckily we lack that dramz.

Mrs.RockyM

I don't think so - sometimes ignorance is bliss, and if things are worked out you dn't want anyone to hold a grudge.  I don't want to know the things that DH's family says about me in frustration or anger - and I don't tell DH what my family says.&nb