WWYD? Dying relative... 1h30 from hospital.

Pearls+Oysters

Here's the back story...

SO lost his paternal grand-mother one year ago tomorrow... It was a very hard time, they were very close and he barely made it to the hospital to see her.

This past week, we have learned that his 84 y-o maternal grand-mother is in the hospital, with a heart condition, AND cancer. She might not make it through the needed operation for a pacemaker and she refuses cancer treatments. She IS 84, and I can only imagine how overwhelmed and tired she might be.

The hospital she is at (and will stay at until the end) is an hour and a half from our hospital. They have a L&D division there and they could monitor me or admit me for delivery, but my worry is on our way to and from that hospital... 

I am 38 weeks and 3 days, will be around 39 weeks when he goes to see her, and he wants me to be there with him. There is nothing I want more than to support him and see her at least this one more time before baby comes, but I'm wondering what you would do in my position...

I do have an OB appointment tomorrow and I will ask her if it's reasonable given our circumstances... 

What would you do? 

watermellens

I would go....as long as you're not staying for the entire day/overnight, I think it's fine. You could reasonably not deliver until 42 weeks (or you could deliver tomorrow, never know).

If you get there and aren't feeling "right" or start going

ClandestineX

I would go because this could be the last time you see her. 39 weeks isn't a definite time you will go into labor, hell... you may last a few weeks more. But if the hospital there has a L&D you are comfortable with that is a plus. I would just tell

Soxgirl07

I would definitely go. Think about it- most obs want you to wait until you've had intense contractions 5 mins apart for an hour before going in. And even then, most women are in the hospital for awhile before pushing. In all likelihood, you would have ple

toriwc

Under normal circumstances, I would go, but an hour and a half commute is no big deal to me.  If I were having any complications, I would not (and I've had complications with both pgs, so in my case, I wouldn't make the trip).  But if you've bee

Pearls+Oysters

toriwc:

Under normal circumstances, I would go, but an hour and a half commute is no big deal to me.  If I were having an

ann_jeremiah

I would go. Chances are... You'd be able to get to one of the hospitals to deliver.

nyki06

My hospital is an hour away from my house so I would be able to easily rationalize the extra 30 minutes each way. If you're worried I would suggest printing off your prenatal records and being aware of any closer hospitals. 

rm2013

Soxgirl07:

I would definitely go. Think about it most obs want you to wait until you've had intense contractions 5 mins apart for a