So I've been working on planning DD's first birthday party.
We were talking about doing a milk and cookies theme. There's a great park in our town that has an air-conditioned shelter right there - we were thinking to rent a room, so that the kiddos in the family could go to the park when they got bored, but people that wanted to get away from the heat could go into the shelter.
There's a kink, though, of course. My ILs own a restaurant in the city (45 min from where we live). It's a neat restaurant - the food is kinda fast-foody, but it's a train-themed restaurant; there's a train that brings the food around to all the tables. My MIL and SIL got all annoyed when they found out that we've been planning a party, because "all the kids" have their 1st birthday party at the restaurant. My SIL was also super annoyed that we were planning on giving DD a cookie instead of a smash cake because "everyone does cakes".
I love trains, don't get me wrong, and I like their restaurant, but it's not a big room and it'd be hard to gather everyone together. It would feel to me like we all just went to get fast food together, it wouldn't feel like much of a party. Plus most of our family lives in our town and will be staying in our town, and I'm not wild about having everyone travel 45 minutes to this restaurant. There also wouldn't be much for the kiddos to do, and I'd hate to have them just running wild.
DH asked if we could just have a second mini-party at the restaurant... MIL said "Do whatever you want" in this really snotty tone and changed the subject. I honestly don't feel like DD's 1st birthday party is this huge vital thing to "get my way", but I do feel like it's something for our family more than for her - it's an excuse to get everyone together, and I'm just not sure the restaurant is a good place to do that.
What do you all think? Should I schedule it my way and risk making them super annoyed, or should I plan it at the restaurant to keep the peace?