Conflicted...

daenerysdragon

I went to Planned Parenthood today. They were so nice and they talked about all of the options. I am really conflicted. If I could know one way or another what was going to happen it would make choosing so much easier. If i had an abortion, I wouldn't have to worry whether or not the father would come back in the picture or how I could provide. I am so torn.

I just, I don't know what to do. Looking for advice.... 

sidekick033

I think you just need to worry about your situation right now. Make a choice that will be best for you and a child's life. If its not the right time and you can't provide, that's what u should focus on. You have to worry about you right now.

katiebenes

If you have the abortion, that will be it... like you said, you don't have to worry.

If that's really hard for you, you can keep the pregnancy and look into adoption in the case he doesn't come back. 

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I'd honestly look into adoption.

Princess_Lily

I don't know what to say to this, except I wish for you to find clarity very soon!

{{hugs}} 

megframe16

Asbromle:

I'd honestly look into adoption.

This!
Babies are miracles. If you are having sex y

ASmallWonder

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msjanet02

Hey, glad u took this next step. I want to urge u to listen to what you feel deep inside, and to consult some of your closest, most trusted friends to get their input. They know your life and situation and personality, etc way better than us. That has hel

Southerndancinmama

Asbromle:

I'd honestly look into adoption.

This. There are so many people looking for babies who ca

daenerysdragon

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countrygurl0101

Glad to see you still posting. I know you are facing the hardest choice in your life. But I agree with PPs, you have to figure out what is best for you. You need to think short term and long term with something like this. If he comes back he might not wan

mahnnis

I think deep down you know what you want to do. Coming to an online forum to ask strangers for advice on abortion or keeping your baby, speaks plenty. I think you want to keep your baby but you are worried and freaked out... Which is so NORMAL. I would sp

shelliescove3

I wouldn't wait any longer for the babies father to come around... If he is unreliable now he will be later too. You need to count on whether or not you are willing to do this on your own. Unfortunately nothing we say will sway your opinion this is a 100

MJHershey

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sleepy33

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rmcgibbon

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blushlush

Either option can be hard when you're in a difficult situation.  Allow me to share a story, hopefully without harsh judgement:

(WARNING: TALKS ABOUT ABORTION) 

Years ago I found out I was pregnant and in absolutely no situati

MommyKayla11

Perhaps adoption would be the best decision for you.

blakelr

Hi there,

I saw your post and I wanted to let you know that I COMPLETELY understand how you're feeling....

 A few years ago I became pregnant while I was taking birth control (turns out it was because the BCP was interacting with anoth

daenerysdragon

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cmrussell27

From personal experience you will regret it the rest of your life. Adoption is definitely the better option. It's more inconvenient for you for 9 months but its better for the baby and the parents out there that really want a child and can't have one.

daenerysdragon

cmrussell27:

From personal experience you will regret it the rest of your life. Adoption is definitely the better option. It's

J+MS

I don't get the argument that you can't carry a baby for 9 months and give it to strangers but you can give it up for eternity. It doesn't compute.

but that's the beauty of it all, you get to choose. Find a counselor and consider therapy, whether

missjean81302

Have you talked with any of your family about it? After reading about your ex, I am understanding more why you are facing this conflict. I am terribly sorry that you are in such a confusing and scary situation. With my first child, I was only 19 and did N

ASmallWonder

cmrussell27:

From personal experience you will regret it the rest of your life. Adoption is definitely the better option. It's

sleepy33

J+MS:

I don't get the argument that you can't carry a baby for 9 months and give it to strangers but you can give it up for et

sleepy33

daenerysdragon:

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daenerysdragon

sleepy33:

Ah, I see. You might try speaking with your local battered women's group. There may be some good help and resources

daenerysdragon

J+MS:

I don't get the argument that you can't carry a baby for 9 months and give it to strangers but you can give it up for et

blakelr

I would look into the laws in your state regarding PPOs. That may help you to feel more safe while you're making your final decision.

If your ex were to find out about your pregnancy, maybe it would be plausible to just tell him it's not his

blushlush

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cwillis90

As a woman, who has been TTC and has not had any luck, it is very hard to hear the word abortion. you should really look into adoption. There are so many families who desperately want children and cant have them. For someone to be able to carry a child an

Beejus

cwillis90:

As a woman, who has been TTC and has not had any luck, it is very hard to hear the word abortion. you should really

sleepy33

cwillis90:

As a woman, who has been TTC and has not had any luck, it is very hard to hear the word abortion. you should really

MichelleApple

you have to think about which outcome you can most deal with and if you have any health issues that might conflict this pregnancy as well. every woman has their choice but not every choice

daenerysdragon

I did decide that having an abortion is what's best for both the baby and me. I really do want to have the baby, but I know that there's just too much at stake for me to really take that risk. Thank you guys for supporting me.

The people who kept

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