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DC - Would you go visit during lunch time?
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DS will be starting daycare in my office building in 5 weeks. He'll be 9.5 months by then. Right now he is watched during the day by my parents, and they bring him to see me and nurse every lunch hour. We have a very nice indoor garden in our building, so we sit there on a bench, nurse, I sing him a few songs, and it's the highlight of my day. Since he is so used to this routine, he is happy to see me and doesn't get upset when I leave.
With my supply dwindling, I doubt that I'd need/can nurse him by the time he starts daycare. I've often heard that it's disruptive to pull your child out of daycare during lunch hour and the child would get very upset. But given that DS is used to this routine, do you think I can/should keep doing it?
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Re: DC - Would you go visit during lunch time?
I would try it, as long as there aren't any separation issues with you leaving. J started having soem separation crying when he was close to turning one, so it wouldn't have been feasible for us to visit and disrupt his day.
I would try it, and if there's no problems, go with it. If there are, stop the visits.
I am so jealous of having him that close to you! I really wish we had a daycare in our office.
If you go and he freaks out when you leave, then you can just quit going. I would if I could and if I had a child who didn't mind my leaving again. However, my kid would lose his mind if I tried to leave after showing up!
You might find that it gets harder as he gets older too and becomes more aware of time passing and routine, or starts having separation anxiety.
Our situations sound fairly similar.
My mom kept B until she was 12 months old, then I put her in a daycare center in my office building.
I could not go visit, at all, during the day for quite some time. In fact, on rainy days, they walk the children around the hallways of my building and I sit on the first floor where the DC is, and I would have to make sure I could duck in somewhere if I heard the children coming because she would freak out if she saw me in the middle of the day and couldn't go home with me.
After she'd been there about 9 months, something clicked and she got the concept that even if I didn't take her home right then, I would come back and get her later. Now I will pop in for an event or to visit at lunch if I have a spare minute and she almost pushes me back out the door after a minute because she wants to play with her friends, but feels obligated to come attend to me while I'm there.
So all that said, I think it depends on your child. How our drop offs went were a great indicator of how it wouldn't work for us. She screamed and cried at drop off for months...same reaction if she saw me during the day. I'd give it a try and play by ear if I were you.
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I would probably go visit until he moves up to the toddler room. At our DC the babies move up at 12-15months, then they start taking a mid-day nap. It would be very disruptive to try to visit with them then.
I did go visit DS at DC on his 1st birthday (I was sad that I couldn't spend the whole day with him so I went for a visit). I nursed him and put him down for a nap. I think he would have been upset with me leaving had I not gotten him to sleep.
Definitely give it a try. I visited DD#1 at daycare until she was 1 year old. At that point, she was on a toddler schedule - eating a real lunch and then laying right down for nap. So, it wouldn't work any more. With DD#2, I stopped at 8 months, because my job was getting in the way. I feel guilty for stopping, but I just wasn't consistent enough to be fair to her.
If you can be consistent about it, you should be able to continue for a little longer. Also, your supply might be ok if you keep nursing. There's a slow down in production and pumping around 8-9 months, but usually they can keep nursing to get something out. I nursed for a full year after the pump couldn't remove milk any more.
It can't hurt to try if you want to, but realize that being in daycare will be a change in his routine, so you coming to see him at lunch may create a different reaction from him!
Or, just in general, kids go through phases and while he's fine w/ it now, he may stop being fine w/ it down the road.
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This. You can try it and it might work for a bit. But once he starts taking a mid-day nap, you may find this to be difficult to continue.
My personal experience has been that I have to hide myself if I visit daycare during the day. Sometimes when I miss him extra badly, I do go during lunchtime and just peek into his room while he's napping to look at his cute self.