This may be flammable

acesup

About two weeks ago DD got bit at daycare by another kid on her face. I know this happens, she has bitten as well, but never on the face and never leaving a mark. It has been a long time since there was a biting incident either with her being the biter or the bitten up until this incident, she is 2.5. This kid really got her, he didnt break the skin but he bit her face and left a mark/bruise. She is still talking about it. She tells me "B bit me" and points to the spot. Obvi the daycare can't tell me who bit her but I do trust DD is telling the truth. My confession? When I pick her up I just can't look at that kid the same. I get annoyed and mad when I see him. I would never ACT that way, it's only in my head. I'm nice and say hi when he talks to me but every time I see him all I can think is "you bit my baby's FACE and left a bruise you little brat!"

nancy30005

Scout2005:

Eh, I think that's a pretty normal way to feel, as long as you don't act on it.

I concur. That's your baby! 

Manateearmz

I saw DD get shoved down by an older kid at daycare once. It was handled by the teachers before I could even react. I had some choice words about that little jerk, all said in privacy with my Dh. 

Kaydfry2411

nancy30005:

Scout2005:

Eh, I think that's a pretty normal way to feel, as long as you don't act on it.

I concur. That's your baby! 

I agree, I'd be the same way!!

pghmortdoll

Its okay to feel that way about anyone that hurts your LO. As long as you keep it between you and DH and don't let it affect the way you treat the kid when you see him.

acesup

I kinda feel bad about it but like I said I would never treat him differently. I saw his dad the other day too and I wanted to be like "your kid bit my baby's face!" But of course I would never. I said it in my head and to him I said "hi how are you?" And smiled. Ugh.

I mean, he's two hr is still learning. I can't imagine when she is older what I would be thinking if another kid who knows better intentionally hurt her!!!

acesup

I'm also afraid she is going relearn the behavior if this kid keeps it up. She has bitten since a while before she was 2.

bumpuser260585

DS, also 2, has also been the biter and bitten at DC. Last time he bit, I talked to him about it and he said he bit Eli. Eli isn't even in his room any more. Even days later, he said it was Eli.

So I'd take it with a grain of salt that she said B bit her. It may have been a different kid. Sorry it had that effect on her though, that she's still upset about it.

IUIBaby

Not flammable at all!

ridesbuttons

I remember feeling like that, my kid was the bite-ee.  It'll pass.  Funny thing: thing biter is now one of DS's best friends.  And his mom is one of mine.

lindsay.lou

I think it's normal to feel that way. It's happened to me and I've felt guilty about it too. Hell, one day my 2.5 year old niece was being really aggressive toward DS1, pushed him to the ground a few times and kept snatching things out of his hands, and I felt that way toward her a bit. And that's my NIECE. I love her, but not like I love my son kwim? It was a fleeting feeling but there nonetheless.

THEN, one day out of nowhere DS1 was being aggressive at story time at the library. He kept shoving kids out of the way to get closer to the librarian. I was horrified and felt sick over it. He hasn't done it since, but it's usually the same group of parents at story time. It makes me want to cry to think some of them have lasting bad feelings toward DS1 or look at him like he's a little shiit.

You just can't help your feelings.

SoDoMojo

I'd be the same way. 

DS got pushed off the slide at the mall play area. I saw the whole thing go down. I went to comfort DS and said to the kid "I saw what you did. That wasn't nice!". And proceeded to give him the stink eye for the next hour. Cuz I'm super mature. 

There's also this kid (who we run into a lot) who kept stealing the soccer ball from DS at tot spot one day. He made DS cry like 5 times in 2 hours. Ever since I've not liked him much.