If you want people to RSVP

Littlejen22

By a certain date, just ask! Ok, I know people suck and don't always RSVP and I totally understand panicking if you are not getting RSVPs for your kid's party because all we parents want is for our kids to have a great day. But two reminders already for a party on the 16th that had an RSVP date of March 9 is a bit much. I feel bad for the teacher who had to not only deal with making sure the original invites were sent out but now two reminders and the RSVP date is tomorrow. And I could not judge the Mom's attitude on the phone to tell if she was happy we RSVPd yes or if she was annoyed I took so long! She was pleasant enough and I am probably reading into it after the reminders but I would expect something along the lines of thanks for calling or I am glad he can attend but I got something more of an ok. So lesson for everyone that if you want to know if people are attending two weeks before the party then put that as the RSVP date and send all reminders after such date. Vent over.

2chatter

The whole RSVP thing is such a debacle now.  I love the vague ones "Tommy will be there!" and then Tommy shows up with 2 cousins and his little sister.  Oops.  I have a love/hate relationship with evite.  At least it makes you think about how many people / age group will show up....

Littlejen22

Now I am worried if she is on here! She called back to apologize for rushing off the phone. And at some point she slipped in what he likes. I get wanting your kid to get what he likes for his birthday but I did not ask because I did not need ideas.

jenjen930

There are few things I hate more than being reminded about something before it is even due.  That is one of my triggers.  I don't blame you for being annoyed. 

fellesferie

I'm a late RSVPer. If someone gives me a deadline, I will RSVP the day before. Just because stuff comes up and I don't want to commit and have to back out.

I would feel pretty unkindly towards someone sending me reminders and gift suggestions. I'm pretty type-a when it comes to planning, and I would never check in like that.  

twister22

Littlejen22:

Now I am worried if she is on here! She called back to apologize for rushing off the phone. And at some point she slipped in what he likes. I get wanting your kid to get what he likes for his birthday but I did not ask because I did not need ideas.

I don't know why more people don't understand this. I hate people dictated what gift(s) I should get someone. It's called a gift!

At the same time, I also hate how MIL & SIL always insist on us telling them different things we want for our Birthdays or Christmas, and then they'll always just get us clothes. I don't understand the point in asking for specifics if you're always just going to get clothes lol.

Littlejen22

twister22:

Littlejen22:

Now I am worried if she is on here! She called back to apologize for rushing off the phone. And at some point she slipped in what he likes. I get wanting your kid to get what he likes for his birthday but I did not ask because I did not need ideas.

I don't know why more people don't understand this. I hate people dictated what gift(s) I should get someone. It's called a gift!

At the same time, I also hate how MIL & SIL always insist on us telling them different things we want for our Birthdays or Christmas, and then they'll always just get us clothes. I don't understand the point in asking for specifics if you're always just going to get clothes lol.

We are actually a wish list making family but I would never give a list without someone asking first. And I usually feel uncomfortable when people ask me for ideas for gifts for my kids unless I am close to the parents.

This situation was just weird because she actually called me back as if she forgot to give me ideas the first time. And now I will be reading too much into it for Kindergarten kids but my overthinking is wondering if she was worried what my nail polish wearing son was going to give her typical rough and tumble boy toy loving child. Maybe I should run out and get him a manicure set lol.

The reason I did not need suggestions is that I bargain shop and usually give art supply gifts to kids I do not know wince I do not know what they already own even if I did know what they like. But since I happen to have a typical 6yo boy toy in my lot of gift stuff I will give that. But the most off putting part of this is that I thought the list of things she was saying that he liked was actually her making some weird comment about what he was playing with buy she actually said gift card at the end!!! She did not flat out say these were suggestions but just rattled them off. She had even mentioned how she does not know any of the Moms from the class and I can promise this is not the way to get to know them. Like I said she was nice but it was so weird and seems even weirder when I type this. It is the type of thing to make you bail if your kid was not looking forward to it.