My Mom is throwing me a shower in New Jersey in two weeks. I live in Chicago and one of my first cousins lives in Milwaukee. My cousin and I get together a few times a year. My best friend is also throwing me a shower in Chicago in May. My Mom invited my cousin to my NJ shower and she declined. Should I tell my friend to invite her to my Chicago shower? My concern is that the invitations for that shower won't go out for a while, and in the mean time my cousin might already send me a gift, and then if I invite her to the May shower she'll feel like she has to get another gift. First world problems!! WWYD, oh wise Baby Shower Bumpies?