Baby Showers

Invite more people?

Sorry if this has been asked before....
Is it okay to invite more people to your baby shower than you did for your wedding shower?
Like if I wasn't able to invite them to the wedding because we had to have a limit of how many people we invited, can those ladies be invited to the baby shower?
Since there's not a big even after the baby shower well besides the birth and it's more of a relaxed and fun thing I thought it might be okay... But just wanted some other opinions...
Thanks :

Re: Invite more people?

  • I think you should check with your hostess and see how many she can accomodate (get a number from her). Keep in mind that there will be some people that can't make it. As for inviting people that were not invited to your wedding...that is OK because they have nothing to do with one another. Just make sure the people you invite are close to you...like you see or talk to them often...not just an acquaintance. You could always have a "meet the baby party" after the baby is born...maybe combine it with a BBQ, etc. and invite anyone you were not able to invite to a shower. Meet the baby parties are not gift giving events.
  • I had this exact same situation.   For my wedding, I had a strict limit to the number of people, so I did not invite my cousin's kids (I say kids, but they are all over 18, some have families of their own) to my wedding and obviously not my wedding shower.  I wasn't thrilled, but I wasn't paying for it and that's how the cookie crumbled there.

    So for my babyl shower I was really excited that I got to invite them.  I have a huge family, I think we invited 65 people and probably around 50 are attending.  That does sound a little big, but between my mom's family, my dad's family, my stepmom's family, and my husbands family, it all adds up.  

    So long story short, yes I invited people that I could not invite to the wedding.  

    ETA: I had a friend who had a surprise shower with over 200 people!  Huge huge family and lots of friends, so it depends on the person really, what's excessive to some is normal for others! 

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    imageBliss+Berry:
    Who you invited to your wedding/wedding shower really has nothing to do with it. However, baby showers are not "invite everyone you know" type events.  Stick to those you talk to on the regular (i.e. don't invite your college roommate that you haven't spoken to in 4 years).  

    This.  As long as your hostess is okay with the number and your venue can accomdate them. But please keep in mind the above...especially the bold.

    I agree w/ all of this. 
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  • imageBliss+Berry:
    Who you invited to your wedding/wedding shower really has nothing to do with it. However, baby showers are not "invite everyone you know" type events.  Stick to those you talk to on the regular (i.e. don't invite your college roommate that you haven't spoken to in 4 years).  


    This. The only bearing wedding shower guest list has on anything is invitations to the wedding; nobody should be invited to a bridal shower that is not invited to the event itself. As long as budget/venue/hostess limitations allow, you can invite anyone to a baby shower with whom you have a close enough relationship. If this were not the case, then you would exclude any friends you may have made after you got married.
     
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  • I stand by inviting those you associate with. Granted a few online friends who have never met me want to send gifts and I told them it was not really needed I just appreciate them being happy for us. My bridal shower was a bit small due to nearly no one in his family coming since most were out of town and a lot of people on my side not having the time right after the holidays. The shower however will have more friends my age as I have reconnected since then with my church ministry projects and prayer groups and I know they would be slighted if they were not invited some already offered to make cakes or baby sit before we got pregnant! There is no rule of how many as long as the person hosting it is OK with the number. 
    Nichole Tampa, FL
  • imagegradbeth:

    I had this exact same situation.   For my wedding, I had a strict limit to the number of people, so I did not invite my cousin's kids (I say kids, but they are all over 18, some have families of their own) to my wedding and obviously not my wedding shower.  I wasn't thrilled, but I wasn't paying for it and that's how the cookie crumbled there.

    So for my babyl shower I was really excited that I got to invite them.  I have a huge family, I think we invited 65 people and probably around 50 are attending.  That does sound a little big, but between my mom's family, my dad's family, my stepmom's family, and my husbands family, it all adds up.  

    So long story short, yes I invited people that I could not invite to the wedding.  

    ETA: I had a friend who had a surprise shower with over 200 people!  Huge huge family and lots of friends, so it depends on the person really, what's excessive to some is normal for others! 

     

     

    Us too...we have a huge family. At birthday parties there's usually 50-60 people so it is the norm for us. So we expect about the same for the shower.

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  • Thanks for the input. The people I was thinking of would be under 20 people. The coworked from my old job and then the few from my new job cuz it's a small place. I would have like to invite them all to the wedding but it wasn't able to happen so only the ones I was closest to I could invite.

    But my mom wants to throw the shower and I live a few hours away now. So she wants to have the shower 'back home'. But she's wondering if we do invite my friends from work, should she just invite them to the one shower which would be a 3 hr drive one way... Or she's wondering if there should be a separate shower where I live now with the co workers?

    And yeah I'm keeping it to people I'm more close with because actually just spending the time with them would be okay with me.
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