I hope I'm not "that" mom

honeybee111 · March 2013

DD(3) goes to preschool and takes a nap from 1-2:30 there every day. She also just started attending an extracurricular sports class which is on Thursdays. I enrolled her in the later sports class so it wouldn't interfere with her nap. Today, on the way home, she told me she didn't take a nap. I asked her why and she said because she went to sports class. I didn't think too much of it, but I was cooking dinner, noticed it was quiet, looked over, and DD was passed out on the floor. I didn't want her sleeping at 5:30, so I woke her up which didn't go well at all, and she's definitely going to bed early. I just sent an email to her teacher asking if she napped today, and if not, could she make sure DD is enrolled in the later sports class so she doesn't miss her nap. I read the email like 3 times, and I hope it didn't sound too demanding/high maintenance.

flyingsaucer · March 2013

You have the right to be demanding when it comes to your kid. If you enrolled her in sports later to accommodate her nap, then that's when she should go

Nechie122 · March 2013

Eh, I think these things always go over better when you say something in person rather than over email. Especially for the first offense.

That said, your concerns sound valid.

laurakaz13 · March 2013

No. I would ask the same thing. I'm not a fan of DD missing naps at all. You're certainly not "that" mom in this case.

brettsmama · March 2013

If you're "that mom", then I would be considered one too LOL. I think it's completely valid.

preggersin2011 · March 2013

LO's day sheet from school always has her nap time written on it and when she ate snack. If she has a melt down in the car at 5pm I know she didn't get enough of a 'snack' and maybe only a handle full of something. If she is getting tired before 6pm then I know she didn't nap well. I always always always ask her teacher when I drop her off the next day about what happened yesterday and what I saw at home. You are paying them to take care of your child per your instructions. If you want your kid to take a nap, wake up and go to sports than that is what they should do. I do think of LO's care givers as her teachers, dont get me wrong!! however, if she was at a private elementary school I would ask the same questions too. You are paying their salary and it is more or less a business contract. Now I know sometimes things happen, and randomly LO won't sleep on her own and wants to play. You have a write to ask

LoCarb · March 2013

You had a genuine inquiry and I wouldn't label you 'that' mom. 'That' mom has an attitude and repeatedly stirs up drama or overreacts.

Leap08 · March 2013

I think your questions is completely reasonable. But I also wanted to say that sometimes my 3 year old just doesn't nap, and that's something you really can't force. I hate it when she doesn't nap because she is a total grump in the evening, and will sometimes fall asleep on the way home. In your situation, I'd want to know if she missed nap due to sports class (and fix that if she did) or if she just didn't sleep during nap because she was excited about sports class.

jnealet · March 2013

Leap08:
I think your questions is completely reasonable. But I also wanted to say that sometimes my 3 year old just doesn't nap, and that's something you really can't force. I hate it when she doesn't nap because she is a total grump in the evening, and will sometimes fall asleep on the way home. In your situation, I'd want to know if she missed nap due to sports class (and fix that if she did) or if she just didn't sleep during nap because she was excited about sports class.

This was my first thought too - there is a high potential that she just didn't nap. We have nights where she falls asleep on the drive home and sometimes she falls asleep on the couch.

mommymegan831 · March 2013

I think that's fine, but are you sure that's what's happening? My DD will be 3 in 2 weeks and I don't know if it's normal, but she still doen't make sense or understand time. I'll ask her if she wants to go to dance tomorrow and she'll get upset and tell me no it's closed. I could see her telling me she didn't take a nap and went to sports, but the 2 had nothing to do with each other. She often doesn't take a nap at school. I think they're at that age where it's not a daily thing.

LittleFish1 · March 2013

With the additional activity, she could have just been worn out more than usual. Can email or ask at drop off the next day to confirm that you signed her up for the late sports class rather than the earlier one. .... Could be they conslidated them if there wasn't enough enrollment.