Baby Showers

Relatives hosting a shower?

So I'm not sure if it is like this everywhere, or just in my area where I live... but for my wedding shower, (and all wedding showers I've been to) it's been, frowned upon I guess you could say, for the mother or MIL to plan and host the shower.  It was just pretty much up to the maid of honor and any friends to do it.  I've been reading posts on here about mothers and MIL throwing baby showers.  So my question is this, do you think it's tacky if a mom, sister or MIL puts together the baby shower?

Re: Relatives hosting a shower?

  • It's pretty much accepted now.  IMO, the one time I side eye it is if the MTB lives with the mom/MIL hosting the shower and is essentially supported by them.
  • I don't care who the shower hostess is as long as it isn't the bride/groom or mom/dad-to-be.
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  • image526SadieSadie:
    I don't care who the shower hostess is as long as it isn't the bride/groom or mom/dad-to-be.

     

    This! 

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    image526SadieSadie:
    I don't care who the shower hostess is as long as it isn't the bride/groom or mom/dad-to-be.

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  • image526SadieSadie:
    I don't care who the shower hostess is as long as it isn't the bride/groom or mom/dad-to-be.

     

    Haha!  Good point! 

  • This is kinda old fashion ettiqutte, but one side of my family feels this way. I don't see any issues with it, but it depends on your circle of friends/family. My MIL's friends hosted my bridal shower for my hubbys side of the family. I thought it was a bit akward as I did not know her friends and was new to the family. I found out it was not a couples shower last min as well. My friends hosted my baby shower and I invited both sides of the family. You just want to make sure you don't throw your own shower and you should be good.
  • imagesctiger52408:
    For wedding showers, the mom or MIL shouldn't host, but it's perfectly fine for baby showers. 

    I swear that I never heard of this until coming to this board. I don't really understand what makes it okay for immediate family to host a baby shower but not a bridal shower.

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  • No one in my family or most of my friends would allow their mothers or MILs to host their baby (or bridal) shower.  My 2nd cousin hosted one of my showers, a church friend hosted another and a co-worker hosted a work shower at her home.  I have had a couple of friends who's sister's hosted their showers.  I have been to many showers hosted by the MTB's mother.  I think it is becoming pretty common these days - not sure why.
  • It's fine. My aunt hosted one shower for me and my SIL hosted another shower.
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  • imageguilletskichuk:

    imagesctiger52408:
    For wedding showers, the mom or MIL shouldn't host, but it's perfectly fine for baby showers. 

    I swear that I never heard of this until coming to this board. I don't really understand what makes it okay for immediate family to host a baby shower but not a bridal shower.

    I think with a bridal shower, it's thought that the bride's family is traditionally hosting the wedding, thus shouldn't be hosting a shower requesting gift. With a baby shower, its generally only frowned upon for the parents to be to throw it.  

  • imageCourt1210:
    imageguilletskichuk:

    imagesctiger52408:
    For wedding showers, the mom or MIL shouldn't host, but it's perfectly fine for baby showers. 

    I swear that I never heard of this until coming to this board. I don't really understand what makes it okay for immediate family to host a baby shower but not a bridal shower.

    I think with a bridal shower, it's thought that the bride's family is traditionally hosting the wedding, thus shouldn't be hosting a shower requesting gift. With a baby shower, its generally only frowned upon for the parents to be to throw it.  

     

    I like your point of view!  Very helpful.. That makes sense. 

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