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Me: 36
DH: 42 (w/ 2 children from prior marriage)
Us: TTC for our 1st together since August 2013
1st BFP: November 2013 (m/c at 7 wks)
2nd BFP: February 2014 (m/c at 6 wks)
RPL Panel started in March 2014
3rd BFP: May 2014 (m/c at 5 wks)
4th BFP: June 2014 (CP at 4 wks)
RE appt in June 2014 (all RPL panel tests are normal...it's likely egg quality due to my age and borderline DOR)
Baseline AFC: 8 follies
2 IUI cycles (July and August 2014- both BFN)
IVF #1 w/ ICSI & PGS- October 2014 (AFC: 8 follies; ER Oct 20: 5R/3M/2F; the 2 only made it to day 3 and stopped growing before biopsy)
key supplements: DHEA (25mg- 3x/day); CoQ10 (300 mg/day) ISWTE believer here!
IVF #2 EPP w/ ICSI & PGS- AFC: 13 follies! 10R/6M/6F- 5 biopsied for PGS- 1 normal embryo
FET scheduled for February 2015 delayed in order to do one more ER in hopes of getting at least 1 more normal embryo
IVF #3 EPP w/ ICSI & PGS: 7R/5M/5F- 2 biopsied for PGS- 1 normal embryo
FET #1 April 23, 2015: 1 PGS tested embryo transferred - BFN
FET #2 June 30, 2015: 1 PGS tested embryo transferred- BFP!!
Re: 2/2/5 Pros and Cons?
*** siggy warning- losses mentioned- everyone welcome *****
Me: 36
DH: 42 (w/ 2 children from prior marriage)
Us: TTC for our 1st together since August 2013
1st BFP: November 2013 (m/c at 7 wks)
2nd BFP: February 2014 (m/c at 6 wks)
RPL Panel started in March 2014
3rd BFP: May 2014 (m/c at 5 wks)
4th BFP: June 2014 (CP at 4 wks)
RE appt in June 2014 (all RPL panel tests are normal...it's likely egg quality due to my age and borderline DOR)
Baseline AFC: 8 follies
2 IUI cycles (July and August 2014- both BFN)
IVF #1 w/ ICSI & PGS- October 2014 (AFC: 8 follies; ER Oct 20: 5R/3M/2F; the 2 only made it to day 3 and stopped growing before biopsy)
key supplements: DHEA (25mg- 3x/day); CoQ10 (300 mg/day) ISWTE believer here!
IVF #2 EPP w/ ICSI & PGS- AFC: 13 follies! 10R/6M/6F- 5 biopsied for PGS- 1 normal embryo
FET scheduled for February 2015 delayed in order to do one more ER in hopes of getting at least 1 more normal embryo
IVF #3 EPP w/ ICSI & PGS: 7R/5M/5F- 2 biopsied for PGS- 1 normal embryo
FET #1 April 23, 2015: 1 PGS tested embryo transferred - BFN
FET #2 June 30, 2015: 1 PGS tested embryo transferred- BFP!!
I agree with keeping school days the same. We used to rotate and DS really struggled with not knowing where he was supposed to be. He has thrived on a set schedule. MTUES with one parent, WTHURS with the other, then rotating weekends is pretty standard 50/50 in my area. Its what usually works best when the kids are in school. I think the only con would be the 5 day separation. I think they are old enough so that will be fine though. The lawyer I spoke with when we were figuring out custody said that kids under five often can't go that long, but once school aged its more common.
*** siggy warning- losses mentioned- everyone welcome *****
Me: 36
DH: 42 (w/ 2 children from prior marriage)
Us: TTC for our 1st together since August 2013
1st BFP: November 2013 (m/c at 7 wks)
2nd BFP: February 2014 (m/c at 6 wks)
RPL Panel started in March 2014
3rd BFP: May 2014 (m/c at 5 wks)
4th BFP: June 2014 (CP at 4 wks)
RE appt in June 2014 (all RPL panel tests are normal...it's likely egg quality due to my age and borderline DOR)
Baseline AFC: 8 follies
2 IUI cycles (July and August 2014- both BFN)
IVF #1 w/ ICSI & PGS- October 2014 (AFC: 8 follies; ER Oct 20: 5R/3M/2F; the 2 only made it to day 3 and stopped growing before biopsy)
key supplements: DHEA (25mg- 3x/day); CoQ10 (300 mg/day) ISWTE believer here!
IVF #2 EPP w/ ICSI & PGS- AFC: 13 follies! 10R/6M/6F- 5 biopsied for PGS- 1 normal embryo
FET scheduled for February 2015 delayed in order to do one more ER in hopes of getting at least 1 more normal embryo
IVF #3 EPP w/ ICSI & PGS: 7R/5M/5F- 2 biopsied for PGS- 1 normal embryo
FET #1 April 23, 2015: 1 PGS tested embryo transferred - BFN
FET #2 June 30, 2015: 1 PGS tested embryo transferred- BFP!!
Can you tell my kiddo hasn't started school yet?
What about just alternating one night a week? Like, kids would be with mom every Sunday-Tuesday and with dad from Wednesday-Fri. Then you could alternate Saturday nights (or whatever days work for you). That would be a compromise with only 4 days instead of 5 away from either parent and the alternating day could be on the weekend so it doesn't interfere with school.
That is basically the schedule I just started with my DS. He's younger than your SKs but I'm nervous about the 4 days stretch every other week. Heck, I'm nervous about the 3 day stretch. We haven't been doing it long enough to know if it's a good choice.
We have been doing 2, 2, 5, 5, for 4 years. SS is nearly 10 and in the 4th grade. It works out great. We like it because we can plan activities on our set days (Wed, Thurs) and not have to worry about BM not taking him or fighting us about it (Like swim lessons, guitar, whatever). The 5 day separation is not that bad (but we are used to it). We use to go back and forth much more and that was aggravating for us and SS. Having the consistency of 5 days in 1 home is actually good for the kids- and you can call them to make sure things are going well.
SS is now requesting that we move to a full EOweek schedule. He wants to reduce the back and forth even more.
I think you should at least try the schedule. It really must be hard on kids to be in the 2 homes and back and forth every single day.
My DS is only 3, and we do the 2/2/5/5. We are used to it, and I don't have the same issues you have with your kids' BM. I can only say for us it's great b/c we both get to see him during the week, and we alternate weekends, which is nice to rest, get things done and ready to have DS again.
My SO has a DS who is 8, and he and his ex-W have the same schedule for their son. Since he has more activities, they are able to split them (he has practice on M, W, and Sa, so his dad can see him on M, mom W, and the Sa practice alternates), and I think they like that. That said, he is at the age where I think they are thinking about week on/week off, which will provide more stability for their DS. But sounds like that won't be a while for you b/c even this 2/2/5/5 will be new to all of you.
Good luck; I'm sorry you are having to do deal with an irresponsible adult, but she might change with this new schedule. Or this schedule might prove to be too demanding and she might want less of the kids less and you'll have them more anyhow. Since you are 5 min away, it sounds like you can be there for them if they need you. Again: good luck!!