frustrated just needed to vent...

inthelost

My child's father already pisses me the hell off. A week ago he told me he'd finally go to a doctor's appointment with me. Since then, I reminded him twice in that week, and he always got an attitude with me and one time siged really heavily and was all like "Well I GUESS. I don't have any other plans." so again the night before I ask him again "you're still coming right?" and he replies "coming to what?" then I reminded him and he got all mad at ME. He said no because he had "plans" and "had" to be somewhere at the same time of my appointment. Ironic huh? two days ago you didn't "have" to be anywhere. Also, he got mad at ME and said "I let him forget" and "didn't really want him there" How in the hell did i LET him forget??? He's the one that made other plans at the last one, he's the one that can't remember a *** appointment. I reminded him twice PLUS the night before. I'm so frustrated. He can't make his child a priority. I could care what he thinks about me but I sure care a great deal about how important his child is to him...apparently it's not that much. I'm so frustrated. I told him I was upset and he was making me cry but then he was just like "stop trying to guilt me" he didn't even ask how the appointment went by the way...he says he took "responsibility" for missing it but I disagree. HOW???? I wish he could have just heard the heartbeat..maybe he'd take it more seriously then...

mimimimimiiii

Ugh, guys a;ways have tons of excuses of everything. My BD doesn't even ask about that AT ALL. If I were you I would just let him do whatever he wants to do and not expect or rely him much. Cause I know at the end I will get disappointed on his actions. You should just focus on yourself and the baby. It's not good for you to get upset by him and the baby can feel your emotions. 

inthelost

Thanks for the responses..and for now on I am keeping communication to a minimum. Thank you both for taking the time to read this and reply to me. I'm sad because obviously I want my child to have a father, and I want him involved for my child's sake, but I can't force anything. I'm also sorry that you went through the same thing, lurchbaby (and mimimi too) and i'll take your advice also, now i'm just going to focus on my baby. There's no reason to get upset and cry over him when he's not even worth it and you're right, it's not good for the baby either. Thanks everyone..

livleen3

I wish I could give you a big hug!! I  am going through the same thing and I feel lonely. One thing to remember (Not promised!) is that men connect differently than women and a woman who is pregnant! While right now hes not there this may change when the baby is here. There is a chance that he may connect with the baby and it will make him want to be there.

For now create a support group of your GFs and family that love and support you! Ofcourse you have us but talking on the phone and seeing your loved ones is so helpful. Get to a good emotional place so when the baby is here you can be the best MOm possible!

Good Luck.. You can always send me a private message and we can become friends if you'd like : )

inthelost

I sent you a message and I'm sorry to hear you're going through the same thing. I would like to be friends it seems like we have a bit in common, and I never turn down a new friend! I also hope that you have a lot of support nearby that can help you out too Thing is I really don't have a lot of support. The majority of my friends live out of state all over the US (I'm previous active duty military, this is mainly why) and my family was not exactly "thrilled" either. I'm dealing with it though: I have to be tough. For the baby and for myself. My hormones get the better of me sometimes though. OK, they do a lot of the time.