I am pregnant and scared

mayra61

I am pregnant with my 5th child, I am scared to tell my husband and family and his family. Just because, I know I am gonna get negative and rude comments . I have all boys my 1st child ids 5yrs old, my 2nd child is 4yrs old and my 3rd 2 yrs old and my 4th child is 6 months. I know the face my husband will put he is not ready for another baby. I am excited at the time but sad at the same time. I am scared he would leave me don't know what to do.

526SadieSadie

Seriously. He can't be pissed at you for getting pregnant unless you lied about taking birth control.  You're both adults and you've been down this road four other times - you know how not to get pregnant and you didn't do it alone.

magdalina.h

Well he was there when it happened so it's his "fault" too.

WashingtonQueen

526SadieSadie:

Seriously. He can't be pissed at you for getting pregnant unless you lied about taking birth control.  You're both adults and you've been down this road four other times - you know how not to get pregnant and you didn't do it alone.

This. He is just as responsible.

mben1119

Were you trying?  Were you on birth control? 

Southerndancinmama

526SadieSadie:

Seriously. He can't be pissed at you for getting pregnant unless you lied about taking birth control.nbsp; You're both adults and you've been down this road four other times you know how not to get pregnant and you didn't do it alone.

This. Totally. His fault too if he wants to point fingers. I think he might need to volunteer for a little snip snip if he's not going to be on your side with your fifth little miracle! Congrats and best wishes!

leahaustin

Your DH did participate in getting you pregnant so I don't know why he would leave you over you being pregnant.

Bluescarf

mdharrison:

526SadieSadie:

Seriously. He can't be pissed at you for getting pregnant unless you lied about taking birth control.  You're both adults and you've been down this road four other times - you know how not to get pregnant and you didn't do it alone.

This.  If you were knowingly having unprotected sex, you should both know that the possibility is there.   

Bluescarf

mdharrison:

526SadieSadie:

Seriously. He can't be pissed at you for getting pregnant unless you lied about taking birth control.  You're both adults and you've been down this road four other times - you know how not to get pregnant and you didn't do it alone.

This.  If you were knowingly having unprotected sex, you should both know that the possibility is there.   

Seriously. We had a whoops but my husband knew the risks. lol

MJHershey

LoisLayn23:

Start with your husband. If you weren't taking precautions to prevent, he can't be all that surprised by it. If you were taking precautions, you may want to think about some permanent precautions in the future if you are this nervous about how he will react.

 

Yup. Exactly.  He was part of it, so he cannot be angry... time to think of other ways to prevent. 

Julie21613

Considering it takes two... how can he be mad at you?  If protection wasn't used, it's not just your fault, its shared fault. 

little_bren

Hmmm... MUD?

laurmar21

I understand your pain, to a small degree. This is our second unplanned pregnancy too.  Ya know, birth control doesn't work all that great for everyone.  My husband and I are super excited for this pregnancy, and we love that our kids are close in age.  BUT - I think we will be taking permanent measures after this one if we decide we are done.  I hope you can get past the "unplanned" part and remember how much of a miracle children are... and a blessing.  I hope your husband can too.  Children are never a "mistake."  They are a blessing from heaven.  You may not have planned this, but God did.  And He makes no mistakes.  Said a prayer for you today!  I am sure it isn't easy!