bf: selfish or selfless?

KKM

How do you feel about it?

For me, I think it is a little selfish.  I love feeling Brady that close, I love watching him, I love that I am his source of food, and I really love that I dont have to make/heat up a bottle in the middle of the night.  I can understand though that it is selfless for some.  If you dont like it but are doing it anyways, or if you are having lots of problems...I am sure there are more things that would fit in this category. 

*I by no means want to bash ff or those that choose to stop bf.  Whatever you do is what is right for you and your family*

TSanchezzzz

For me, it's not so black and white. There are things about it that are both selfish and selfless.

pinksweetpea2

I like the closeness, but for the most part I don't love it. ?I continue to do it because I love her and want to give her the best start possible.

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iris427

both

when it was super painful, it was selfless.  I did it for her, not for me.

But now I love how easy and cheap it is, and how it's something no one but me can do for her.

JulyFiveBride

It depends, haha. I think it's definitely a give/take relationship. The first few weeks it was definitely a selfless thing... no breaks, having to take care of her everytime she woke up instead of trading off w/ DH, thrush, mastitis... but now that it's going well, it's kind of a selfish thing. I love BFing her and I love that it's our special thing... not something anyone could do for her. So both for me.

jamira

I think its is some of both. I now love BF for the reasons you stated. I lovethat I don't have to get up and make/heat bottles, I just get DS from his co-sleeper. I often wake up when he starts rooting and before he starts crying to feed him. Sometimes I even get disappointed when I come home from work and DS has just had a bottle. After being at work all day I look forward to nursing when I get home. I also hate pumping and only pump b/c I have to.

karukaru

For me is both. It used to be selfless when it used to be painful and also when i barely slept b/c of his severe reflux. Now, is selfish because it is cheaper than formula and because i do not have to wash and sterilize bottles all the time.

I love the closeness between DS and I when i BF. I didnt love it at the beginning but i do now. I love knowing that I am able to give him the best possible kind of food there is.

auslyn804

A little of both. I cried when DH gave him his first bottle but everyday I wish we could just do bottle and formula.

102503Natalie

iris427:

both

when it was super painful, it was selfless.  I did it for her, not for me.

But now I love how easy and cheap it is, and how it's something no one but me can do for her.

 

Ditto 100%

PMJacobsen

both.  when his reflux is acting up and he is screaming and pulling off and pinching my breasts, i want to stop so badly but i do it bc it is best for him.  then when everything is running smoothly, i love looking at how peaceful he is and i love knowing that i am literally providing him everything he needs.  he depends on me so much and i kinda like that.