are you going to have another?
Hi ladies,
We had DD last April after a tough pregnancy- I was on strict bedrest starting at 24 weeks due to IC. Thankfully, she arrived healthy and happy at almost 37 weeks. We did not have any complications with my son (4 years), but had a loss at 15 weeks in between the two.
At the time we had DD, I swore I was done, but now I'm not so sure. I would love another baby, but am very worried about being pregnant again. I spoke to my OB and she would want me to see a specialist right after the first trimester. My fear is if we try again and either lose it or have a premie with problems (we met with a NICU dr while pregnant with DD and our conversation scared me to bits).I've been praying about whether or not we should do this, but don't feel like there's been a sign either way.
WWYD? or if you got pregnant after a high risk- how did it go? TIA!
Re: are you going to have another?
I am a type 2 diabetic and had some complications towards the end of my pregnancy with DS (my first.) I became pre-eclamptic at 39 weeks and wound up with an emergency c-section after a failed induction.
DD, who is now 6 weeks old, presented the same issues, but this time at 37 weeks, along with some other issues as well.
When I went for my PP checkup yesterday, my OB suggested I get my tubes tied. I'm not sure I want to do that, BUT I do know that I do not want to get pregnant again. I'm not willing to risk my life for a third child. I have two beautiful and healthy children, boy and a girl, and that's it. If we ever did want another, I would absolutely explore adoption.
This is a really hard question. Both of my children presented the same way - preterm labor, hospital bed rest at 33 weeks and a c-section at 36 weeks. I have always wanted more kids. I have struggled with the risks and what it might mean for my existing family. I have struggled with the idea that I might have regrets later if I don't try. In the grand scheme of things, if everything went the same third time around, then maybe the month away from home wouldn't be so bad. There is no easy answer and obviously you have to do what is best for you and your family. Listen to your OB and talk about it with your SO. I am probably done because, as you know, there are no guarantees with pregnancy and I don't think I can risk it being worse the next time. I am sad with this decision but I am lucky to have my 2 boys.
Good luck with whatever you decide!
Personally I think that you should make the decision that's feels best to you. If another pg is too scary for you, that's okay. If you want to try again, that's okay too.
Just one thing, if you do get pg, you will need to get things in place with the specialist during the first tri. Don't wait until the very end. Personally, I found my doctor for my cerclage before I even got pg.
BFP #1 - 01/12/12, EDD 09/12/12, Medical Induction @ 21 weeks 05/03/12
BFP #2 - 10/30/12, EDD 07/04/13, Natural m/c @ 5 weeks 11/01/12
BFP #3 - 02/07/13, EDD 10/12/13
Dx: Incompotent Cervix
This has been on my mind also. I had a laundry list of problems with DD.
- Irritable uterus
- Pre term labor
- Short cervix
- Pre- Eclampsia
And a nightmare deliver that I feel like I will always regret. And my doctors have told me that I will most likely have most of these issues if I got pregnant again. I worry that it would be selfish to DD for me to go through this. I would require so much during this and so much attention. But I think giving her a sibling is a gift also. I have such a hard time with this decision.
I also worry logistically how to make it all work again. I know we could if we wanted to.
Its a tough one.
My son was born at 25 weeks. It basically took me 10 years to get mentally prepared to do this again. I have always wanted more children, but the unknown of what really caused his premature birth was something that scared the absolute crap out of me. Eventually, my desire to have more children got stronger than my fear though. I did prepare for this pregnancy a lot. I went and spoke to my doctor and we developed a game plan before I was even pregnant. I had always taken good care of myself, but I started making sure that I was be absolutely perfect to my body through diet and exercise. It took us a little longer to get pregnant than I thought it would, so by the time I was pregnant I was so excited. It wasn't until all the intervention started that I started to get scared. This pregnancy hasn't been the easiest mentally, but it has been worth it. I have made it further than with my son and I continue to be excited with every day that passes. I can't tell you to go for it, but for me I am so glad I took that step and got over my fear. I pray that my success continues and my daughter is born healthy at term.