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I didn't cry

Well we had our follow up consult today....not only do we have MFI but I apparently have a lower egg reserve than he thought he'd see in my bloodwork. So not only did he basically say we need ivf, but we need it pronto...
I managed to pretend to be a champ and I didn't cry or anything.

So we are feeling pressured to decide and potentially find thousands of dollars quickly...

Forget a glass of wine tonight I think I'll just drink from the bottle

 


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 Me(31). DH (31)

DH SA normal count and motility, 1% morphology
Me .72 AMH, Fragile X premutation carrier
IVF #1 (6/12/13) BFN

IVF #2 (8/16/13) BFN

FET 10/4/13 Chemical

IVF #3 MC 5 weeks 5 days

IVF #4 DE 11/7 BFP, edd 7/28/15

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    I am so very sorry that it looks like IVF will be needed.  Can you take some time to come up with the money?
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    TTC #1** Went off BCP July 2011

    Me: 31 DH:31


    Jan 2012 Dx PCOS by OB/Gyn


    July 2012 - Tests with RE confirmed PCOS and annovulation

    2 rounds of clomid, 5 IUI's using clomid + injectibles. 

    Surprise BFP while on break cycle due to cysts.  It's a girl! Baby "E" born on Thanksgiving Day 11/28/13


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    Because of my low egg reserve he said we couldn't wait too long...thanks for the support... my friends understand so little I'm sometimes surprised they are women

     


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     Me(31). DH (31)

    DH SA normal count and motility, 1% morphology
    Me .72 AMH, Fragile X premutation carrier
    IVF #1 (6/12/13) BFN

    IVF #2 (8/16/13) BFN

    FET 10/4/13 Chemical

    IVF #3 MC 5 weeks 5 days

    IVF #4 DE 11/7 BFP, edd 7/28/15

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    I'm so sorry for the bad news from the consult.  Did he give you your baseline hormonal levels and AFC for the DOR dx?  If not, request them to see where you are at...and if it's not as dire as he made it seem - have you thought about getting a second opinion?  Look into if there are any clinical trials in your area (website clinicaltrials.gov) to see if you can cycle for free for science!  Just throwing ideas out there.  

    But if it turns out to be a accurate Dx and treatment plan...there are many options and ways to help afford IVF aside from clinical trials.  Borrow from 401Ks interest free, IF loans from if-centric companies, bank loans, no interest credit cards, HSAs, or combining several of these.  

    Take tonight to be mad at the world, and drink that bottle.  Then tomorrow start looking for a plan.  (((HUGS))) 

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    TTC since July 2009. Dx MFI & LPD. 
    IUI#1&2&3 (2011 & 2012) BFN
    IUI#4 1/23/13 on 75iu x9 Follistim = BFP then chem preg m/c (Feb 2013)
    IUI#5 BFN (April 2013)
    IVF w/ICSI Oct. 2, 2012 - 13R, 11M, 7F, 1 frozen blast 4BB grade - - - FET Nov 15, 2013
    BFP! Beta 1:104 @ 10dp6dt, Beta 2:178 @ 12dp6dt,  beta 3:366 @ 14dp6dt
    Saw heartbeat twice before missed M/C at 8w3d on 12/27/13, missing my little angel boy
    JUNE 2014 IVF#2;  5R, 2M, 1F Three day transfer 6/7.  Beta 6/18 - BFN
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    Thanks ladies, honestly talking with you guys makes me feel so much better, he did not give me exact numbers...it's odd I didn't think to ask, probably bc I was blindsided. I will definitely email him.
    Also I'm absolutely going to look into all of your suggestions!

    And I need one of those wine glasses, mine are giant but that one puts them to shame haha

    It's weird...it's devastating but I feel relieved to have answers

     


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     Me(31). DH (31)

    DH SA normal count and motility, 1% morphology
    Me .72 AMH, Fragile X premutation carrier
    IVF #1 (6/12/13) BFN

    IVF #2 (8/16/13) BFN

    FET 10/4/13 Chemical

    IVF #3 MC 5 weeks 5 days

    IVF #4 DE 11/7 BFP, edd 7/28/15

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    I just wanted to say I'm sorry for the difficult news today.
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    I am so sorry you got bad news.. Like PP said to get the actual numbers.. and a possible second opinion. Good luck to you! Bottoms up!
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    i'm sorry you didn't get good news... I would definitely look into a second opinion, but not before you finish off that bottle of wine. (((hugs)))
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    I am so terribly sorry to hear about your news.  Drink a bottle of wine (or two) and take a nice bubble bath - or whatever it is you like to unwind.  Then, in the morning, I might consider thinking of a second opinion as PP have said.  
    Me: 30, DH: 40 
    TTC since January 2012HSG & Bloodwork: Normal, SA: NormalDx: Unexplained Infertility 50mg Clomid + TI = BFN (three cycles)
    50mg Clomid + trigger + IUI = BFP (one cycle)
    Beta #1 (12dpo) = 49  Beta #2 (14dpo)= 149

    Expecting g/g twins Oct '13


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    I'm so so sorry. :( 
    all good advice above! 
    Married since 2008 Me:36 DH: 35 TTC since August 2011. SA - "good" ultrasound - "excellent" Blood work - "good" Diagnosis: unexplained infertility Starting cycle 1 of clomid 3/27
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    I'm sorry for your news of IVF.  I got the same news during my last visit.  DH is fine.  My tubes are blocked.  I just wish my insurance would cover some of it but they don't...I am an OOP girl :(
    TTC since June 2010:  Blocked tubes due to Endo
    IVF July 2013

    4/2 accepted into New Hope Fertility Clinical Trial in NYC 
    7/5 ET one blast transferred
    7/12 first beta 7dp5dt:  39  Pregnant!!!
    7/15 Beta: 146
    7/19 Beta: 935
    7/26 Beta: 14,671

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    We are oop too : I'm sorry for your news

     


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     Me(31). DH (31)

    DH SA normal count and motility, 1% morphology
    Me .72 AMH, Fragile X premutation carrier
    IVF #1 (6/12/13) BFN

    IVF #2 (8/16/13) BFN

    FET 10/4/13 Chemical

    IVF #3 MC 5 weeks 5 days

    IVF #4 DE 11/7 BFP, edd 7/28/15

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    Sorry for the crappy news, paying oop makes it that much worse. Hugs
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    TTC since 0ct. 2011
    Me-34,DH-34
    Dx:Hypothyroidism 2008
    HSG- All clear CD 3 bloodwork normal
    SA- Abnormal Dx:MFI
    DH on 50mg Clomid 3x week
    BFP#1- 1/21/13 CP 1/24/13
    Cycle 18,19 & 20 50mg Clomid+trigger+IUI= All BFFN
    Cycle 21-25 Taking a break for now, still HIO Hoping!
    Moving onto IVF Next AF
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    I'm sorry for you bad news.  Take tonight for yourself and focus on your plan tomorrow.

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    September 2012: Start IF testing

    DH (32): SA is ok, slightly low morph, normal SCSA  Me (32): Slightly low progesterone, hostile CM, carrier for CF, Moderately high NKC, High TNFa, heterozyogous mutated Factor XIII, and +APA

    October 2012-May 2014: 4 failed IUIs, 3 failed IVFs, and 1 failed FETw/donor embryos

    November 2014: IVF w/ICSI #4 Agonist/Antagonist with EPP and Prednisone, Baby Aspirin, Lovenox, and IVIG for immune issues.  Converted to freeze all due to lining issues.  2 blasts frozen on day 6!

    January 2015: FET #2 Cancelled due to lining issues

    April 2015: FET #2.1


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    Just wanted to say I am sorry about the bad news! Hugs and prayers with you! Enjoy that bottle of wine....wine always makes me feel little better!

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    *Me 28 Husband 31

    *TTC since 10/2009

    *10/2010Tried 1 cycle of clomid 50mg with no results

    *12/2010 On break due to needing a new OB and money reasons

    5/5/12 Underwent exploratory surgery and had tubes blown out- no issues found

    5/5/12 DH had SA and numbers look great

    7/2102 50mg dose of clomid with ovulation and timed sex no results

    8/12 Clomid cylce #3- no success

    8/30 Went to see RE and we have decided to move onto IUI attempts

    10/18 IUI#1 BFN and cyst developed so on hold

    11/17 IUI cycle #2 BFN
    IUI #3,4,5,6 =BFN

    First round of IVF- 2 fresh transfered Beta=20, 37 than ended in M/C- Will do frozen transfer in Sept!

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    I'm so sorry!  TP to you and you next step!
    Me:37 DH:40 Married 7/2009 TTC since 5/2012 
    BFP 4/2013, Our Christmas Miracle Due 12/18/2013
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    I'm so sorry. Hugs!!!

    Enjoy your bottle of wine. PPs gave good advice. We're here when you need a shoulder to lean on.



    Me: 32 DH: 31.
    B/W: good. SA: good.
    November 2012: Paratubal cyst found during U/S.
    January 10, 2013: Lap removed paratubal cyst and Stage 2 Endometriosis. 
    3 cycles of Femara + TI = BFNs

    June 2013: Femara 2.5 mg, Gonal F Injects 37.5 IU, Menopur, trigger + IUI = BFN

    July 2013: Femara 2.5 mg, Gonal F Injects 75 IU, Menopur, trigger + IUI = BFP!!!!

    Beta 1 @ 11 DPIUI = 76. Progesterone = 27.3

    BFP 8/16/2013 // EDD 4/28/2014

    Jordan Samuel born April 19, 2014. 6 lb, 12 oz and 18 inches long.

     

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    I'm so sorry. Hugs!!! Enjoy your bottle of wine. PPs gave good advice. We're here when you need a shoulder to lean on.

    This! So, so sorry! Hang in there!

    TTC #1 since Sept 2011
    Me: 33, DH: 35, DX: PCOS & MFI (low everything)
    IUI #1-3 - Low Post-Wash Counts - All BFNs
    IVF #1 w/ ICSI: Long Lupron Protocol - Freeze-All Cycle due to Severe OHSS
    ER 4/27, 33 Eggs Retrieved, 13 Frosties
    FET #1 6/5, Transferred One Perfect 4AA Blast, HPT BFP @ 6dp5dt
    Beta #1 - 209, Beta #2 - 508, Beta #3 - 1,059
    EDD 2/20/14
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    I'm so sorry to hear this but hang in there.
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