My friend, H, has a child with XGF. He and BM split when DD was 3, she is going to be 10 this year. They both lived in the same state until she was 7, when BM moved to another state. He went up there to visit her a few weeks later and it was an alright visit. When H got home, BM told him she didn't want him to call/text/try to visit any longer and has basically made it next to impossible for him to contact DD.
It has been 2 1/2 years since he has been able to talk to his daughter, let alone see her. He has tried numerous times to contact BM but she keeps changing her number, blocking him on FB, etc. etc. They do not have a CO and they were never married. He does pay child support but that doesn't make a difference to BM. She married a new guy and they started their own family. She wants new guy to be DD's "father" instead of H.
My question to you guys is, what options does he have here? BM (when she does contact him) says she is going to take his rights away so new guy can adopt DD. Doesn't she have to have some kind of proof or reason to do this? He has made many many attempts to find DD to no avail and has kept up on his child support. He does want to be in her life.
Re: I need some advice please
This. Also, if he has any records of trying to contact the BM and her respinses that would greatly help. Any old FB messages, texts, voicemails, phone records to her number...anything.
Your friend needs a swift kick in the ass. If he REALLY wanted to be involved in his daughter's life, he would have contacted a lawyer immediately. One parent can not take away the other parent's rites. But allowing it to go on this long, may affect the outcome in her favor if he can't prove that he tried to contact her and re-establish the relationship with his daughter.
Tell your friend to get off his ass, quit whining about it, lawyer up, and fight for his kid.
This. Why is he just now deciding to fight to see the daughter? There are free legal aid places in every state, or he could have just gone to the clerk's office to file for visitation himself. It's not difficult and would have at least gotten him a court date. He should have done so the first time BM blocked visitation.
All of this.