Intro
lisarnj
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So I'm new to this board, replied and posted a couple of times in the last 2weeks. DH and I have been married for about year and a half. We have 4 children between us. Took me almost 2.5 years to get preggo with my DD with me ex. He never had problems, they got preg first time with all 3kids. Have been trying for several months no success. Starting to get the old feelings of failure, ESP bc I know it's prob on my end that we're not pregnant. Add to it family have started making comments about when we're having kids. We've already ruled out ivf, as we have so many kids already. But feel like I'm still meant to have another child. To add to this stress, infertility placed a HUGE stress on my last marriage, and me ex told me he wanted a divorce when I was 5 months preg... So while I want a baby (and he does too) I'm also extremely stressed about what would happen if we do get preggo. Sorry I know none of this is rational, but not a lot of people that I can talk about with that understand what it's like to just get bfn time and time aagain thanks for listening!
Re: Intro
Welcome to the group! How old are you?
Welcome! Does DH know how things went with your ex? I would make sure you talk about it with him, so he understands your concerns - which are understandable.
Also how long ago did DH have children, he is that much older now too. Don't get down till you know you have reasons to be down!
My Ovulation Chart
Me: 41 DH: 46. We are TTC our 1st, started July '11,
3 cycles clomid with Ob,
1 cycle Tamoxifen with Ob,
Diagnosed PCOS 11/5/12
clomid, trigger & timed bd 12/12 BFN
1st clomid IUI 1/4/13 BFN.
2nd clomid IUI 2/13 cancelled didn't respond to clomid.
3/15/13 scheduled laparoscopy & on bcp.
May 10 IUI from injectibles - BFN
May 22 done with interventions it will either happen or it won't.
February 2014 No longer actively trying, but not preventing.
SURPISE BFP 4/2/2015!!!!!!!!!!
Miscarriage 4/23/15
My Ovulation Chart
Me: 41 DH: 46. We are TTC our 1st, started July '11,
3 cycles clomid with Ob,
1 cycle Tamoxifen with Ob,
Diagnosed PCOS 11/5/12
clomid, trigger & timed bd 12/12 BFN
1st clomid IUI 1/4/13 BFN.
2nd clomid IUI 2/13 cancelled didn't respond to clomid.
3/15/13 scheduled laparoscopy & on bcp.
May 10 IUI from injectibles - BFN
May 22 done with interventions it will either happen or it won't.
February 2014 No longer actively trying, but not preventing.
SURPISE BFP 4/2/2015!!!!!!!!!!
Miscarriage 4/23/15
I agree with this entirely, and I can't quite believe that with the number of kids you already have between the two of you anyone would be pressuring you to have more. It's your choice and your 'private affair' if you are going for more or not. Be direct and tell family/friends that the stress they are putting on you isn't helping anything, so they just need to butt out!
Married August 2012. Me: 41 DH: 42
Daughter from previous marriage: 20
BFP 12/19/12: Ectopic discovered at 8 weeks, right tube removed 01/18/13
June 2013 Testing Results: Progesterone: 31.7, LH: 5, FSH: 5, Estradiol: 161
Clomid cycles Nov. 2013 and Jan, Feb, and March 2014
TTC journey over as of the end of October 2014
TTCAL BLOG
All ALers welcome!
Hi welcome to the board. Don't be worried this DH is going to fail you like your ex. They are two different ppl and it sounds like he understands.
If I were you I would at least go see my ob/gyn and have him run a few tests. He can do 3 day testing and also a HSG to rule out some things. Then based on the answers, schedule an appt with an RE if it looks like the numbers aren't perfect. REs can take months to get appts with, so do your homework now and find one that you would consider working with.
I am from NJ, but my RE is in Little Silver - a bit of a hike for you to drive to. HeatherSteven uses him also. He changed my DH's mind - who was dead set on doing things "naturally" & did not want any interference with drugs or catheters, etc. Go figure, I marry a younger man & figured all along that I was the cause of IF, it turns out we have MFI - I am in great shape for my age.