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June 2012 Moms
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ettiquette question
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A coworker is getting married. We do not interact much nor interact outside of work and I am not invited to the wedding - but I just got an invitation to her bridal shower?!
They also invited all the students and families in our dance school.
I am thinking.... tacky and gift grabby?
Would you go/ buy something?.
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Re: ettiquette question
This. "You are good enough to give me a gift but I don't really want you at my wedding" I would buy nothing and decline the invitation without comment or reason.
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I agree. Super tacky.
Super tacky! The proper ettiquette rule for Bridal showers is you're only suppossed to invite people that you're inviting to your wedding. I would decline the invite and NOT buy anything. If they ask why tell them the truth.
Assuming this isn't a work shower hosted by co-workers and the only guests are also co-workers: not tacky. Rude. And gift grabby.
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I wouldn't go or give a gift. But as PPs have said, maybe the host just doesn't want to leave anyone out & isn't necessarily trying to be gift-grabby. It's sort of hard to know with showers.
For my baby shower, I gave the host a list of family members to invite. I didn't invite some cousins who I am not close to at all because I didn't want to be gift-grabby. Well, it turns out they were super offended I didn't invite them! Sometimes you can't win in these situations.
This exactly for us too. If its a shower thrown by work then I would attend and bring a gift off the registry. If it's HER inviting you to her own shower than it's tacky and rude and I wouldn't go.
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Her BF who is also a co-worker send the invitation to the teachers AND all the families in our school. It is not during work hours.
IMO it is not a work shower because students and families were invited.
Same here. We do "work showers" for both weddings and babies. They are work events held at the office and during office hours. Coworkers chip in for gifts if they wish to otherwise come an have some cake! If this is her private bridal shower with friends and family, I agree with pp, it's tacky and I would not attend either.
Super tacky. When we got married, my mom invited people to my shower so then we had to invite them to the wedding. Finally, the guest list was out of control and mom was cut off of inviting peeps.
RSVP no and send no gift.
That is so strange.
I wouldn't go or send a gift in this case.