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Thank you gift?

I have heard of some people sending a thank you gift of sorts to the staff at their fertility clinic once they get pregnant. Has anyone done this?? I feel like the $26k we have paid them already is more than enough, but I know that the staff doesn't get any kind of bonus or anything for what they have helped me accomplish. I was thinking of bringing bagels or donuts or something to our last ultrasound appointment before we graduate.

Any thoughts on this??

Me - 35 DH - 37 SD - 10
Married 10/8/2011
Started TTC July 2011. Infertility workup July & August 2012.

DH - all clear. Me - Unicornuate Uterus discovered at HSG 8/16/12. Referred for IVF 8/28/12. Approved for IVF Warranty Program 10/2/12. Laparoscopy 11/1/12 - removed right rudamentary horn, both tubes, left ovarian cyst and endometriosis.
Given all clear for pregnancy after 1/1/2013.

IVF cycle 1 starts 1/19/13!

12 eggs, 7 mature and all 7 fertilized - 2 Frosties!!

5 day SET 2/4/13 - Beta 2/13: 86 & 2/15: 186 BFP!!!!

EDD: October, 23, 2013



Re: Thank you gift?

  • No thoughts.  But I think it's a great idea.  I'll hopefully be graduating on Monday and would like to bring the wonderful nurses something.

    Me- 32, DH- 32- TTC for 4 Years
    IUIs 1-6 BFN
    IVF #1= BFP- M/C
    FET- Beta#1: 69, #2: 482, #3: 1088, #4: 28,318, Ultrasound- 1 beautiful heartbeat
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  • I've definitely heard of people doing this-I didn't though.  I still keep in touch with one of my main nurses, and our peri is my RE's sister in law-so I know she gets updates that way.  I just felt weird taking a "gift" into the office-and I didn't know that my last appointment was my last appointment until that day.

    TTC since 5/2010
    DX with Diminished Ovarian Reserve - AMH of 1.1 - 7/2011; AMH of .42 8/2012
    BFP 9/1/10-M/C confirmed 9/8/10-Methotrexate 10/6/10
    IUI #1 (w/clomid)-9/5/11-BFN ; IUI #2 (w/clomid)-10/5/11 - BFP - 11/1/12-No sac seen; 11/2/11 and 11/9/11-Methotrexate 
    IVF #1- ER 2/2; ET 2/5;-Two 8 cell embryos transfered = BFFN
    Surprise BFP - 5/7/12
    U/S on 6/8/12 - H/B at 128 BPM; U/S on 6/14/12 @ 9wks-No H/B-D&C on 6/17/12
    IVF 2.0- ER 10/17; ET 10/20-One 12 cell, one 10 cell and one 8 cell embryo transfered
    BFP!   11/16/12 U/S- Two nuggets with perfect heartbeats! EDD 7/10/13


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  • I'll probably write a handwritten thank-you card. :)

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    12/2/11 - IUI #1- BFN 
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  • I thought about it, but didn't give a gift.  Like you said, we paid the clinic a LOT of money, it's not like their help was given as charity.  I definitely thanked everyone at my graduation, I'll keep in touch through the pregnancy, send a nice birth announcement to the RE and nurses, etc.  Plus, I'll be going back 6-12 months after my first is born for a FET.  I don't think they expect anything more than that. So that was my thought process.    
    TTC #1 7/10, Me (31)- Dx DOR (AMH 0.6); DH (30)- normal
    BFP on Cycle #8. Natural M/C at ~8 weeks
    IUI #1 and #2 (8/12, 9/12)- 50 mg Clomid + Ovidrel = BFNs
    IVF #1 (EPP) 13R/10M/9F, 5DT 1-4AA blast, beta #1-148, beta #2-322, 5 frosties! 
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  • Even though you spent 26k the nurses and staff don't get that, a gift of a fruit basket or other type of food is always appreciated. Let's put it this way I get a direct line to my NP and OB because I always bring them different things throughout the year. And my RE has given me free advice etc and I am not saying she is not a lovely person but I think the xmas gifts helped.
    6 m/c
    Anovulatory cycles, increased Synthroid Diagnosed Sep 2010
    Natural cycle Dec 2010 BFP M/C 6 1/2 Weeks, D&E Jan 2011
    1 Clomid/Ovidrel BFN May 2011
    Natural cycle Aug 2011 BFP M/C 4 Weeks
    1 IUI Sept 2011 BFP M/c 7 weeks
    Provera Dec 2011 BFP M/C 3 Weeks
    DQ ALPHA HLA MATCH, High NK Cells Diagnosed Dec 2011
    IVF March 2012 BFP m/c 4weeks 5 days (IL, Prednisone)
    IVF#2w/DS July 2012 MEGA FAILURE BFN (IL, Dexamethasone)
    Diagnosed No real HLA Match, DQ Beta Triad, High TNF, Low NK Cells
    Oct 2012 Natural Cycle m/c 4wks (Lovenox, Prednisone) 
    Went to Beer Center- high tnf, low lad, implantation failure
    Nov/Dec 2012 LIT Treatment
    Dec 12 Humira
    Jan 2013 BFP
    Humira,LIT,Prednisone, Lovenox, IVIG, Baby Aspirin
    Miracle Born August 2013 Premature

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  • My RE's office specifically just asked for baby pics once it arrives. 
  • I was planning on sending an edible arrangement with a birth announcement and a nice thank you card. I love edible arrangements haha and they aren't too expensive for a smallish one, and my clinic was kind of small anyway and it'll be summertime. Even though they got a ton of money, like you said the staff doesn't work on a commission and they were always so personable and invested in us. I certainly don't think it's necessary and not everyone feels so inclined so I definitely don't think any different for people who don't do this.
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    Begin Clomid Aug 2011-Jan 2012 without monitoring
    Wised up, demanded better care and a RE

    RE DX OHSS and softball sized cysts, no wonder I looked KU

    Begin Femera and Injects;

    Aug - 75 Gonal F for 6 days, Follies at 21, 16, 15 on CD9 another shot of Gonal F, trigger the next night
    IUI #1 Aug 17 - BFFN :( >

    IUI #2 - Nov 6 - BFFN...or so we thought. BFP Nov 28!

    First U/S Dec 11 shows one baby in there!

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  • After I get releases from the RE's office, I was planning on sending an editable arrangement as a thank you.
  • DH and I delivered an Edible Arrangement basket about three months after we were released. We went in the afternoon so I knew there would be few to no one in the waiting room when we got there. The girls at the office were so happy to see us and we had a nice visit. Our clinic was small and we worked closely with a bunch of the staff, so it was nice to really give them a 'thank you'. They also requested updates and for us to bring our LO in when she is here. The embryologist likes to 'squeeze her babies' as she put it, LOL!!!!
    TTC# 1 since 5/10
    Me:34 Type 1 Diabetes, Ankylosing Spondylitis, Hypothyroid DH:35 Perfect
    DX: Unexplained IF
    Many IUI's with various meds all BFFN
    IVF #1 11/11 canceled due to OHSS
    IVF #2 Feb/March 2012 ET of 2 on day 3 4/7 BFP! 5/1 u/s blighted ovum
    IVF #3 July 2012 ET of 3 on day 3 7/24 BFP!
    Healthy baby girl born at 36w4d on 3/9/13
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    IVF #4 May/June 2014 ER 6/4 18R 8M 8F ET 6/9 1 blast, 2 frosties
    Beta 6/18 BFFN

    FET of 2 blasts 7/24...BFP!
    Healthy baby girl born at 36w3d on 3/17/15

    IVF #5 June 2018- PGS planned, no surviving embryos
    IVF #6 August 2018- ET of 2 on day 3 - Chemical pregnancy
    IVF #7 August 2019-....?
  • I thought about it when I was close to be graduating from RE, but I never knew if something might happen on the way, so I decided to wait until I see a healthy baby in my arm.  

    My birthing announcement card with pictures will be a thank you card for my RE! 

    Mar-Apr-May/12: All 3 IUI (w/ Femara) - BFN

    May/12 IVF journey in the works...
    IVF #1 w/ ICSI #1 (Gonal, Menopur & Ganirelix)
    5/29-6/18: BCP, 6/21-6/27: Stim, 6/30: ER
    7/5: ET 2 5-days blastocysts are transferred, none made to freeze :(
    7/17: Beta #1 - 616!!, 7/23: Beta #2 - 6818
    8/2: u/s #1 - a healthy seahorse found & one empty sac, 8/16: u/s #2 - one peanut! HB @ 180
    10/30: It's a girl!!! EDD: 3/23/13

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    I thought about it when I was close to be graduating from RE, but I never knew if something might happen on the way, so I decided to wait until I see a healthy baby in my arm.  

    My birthing announcement card with pictures will be a thank you card for my RE! 

    Exactly this! After a previous loss, I'll know all was successful after baby is here.

    Unexplained IF
    IVF #1 3dt 3embies 2/17. +HPT 10p3dt.
    Beta #1-70, #2-130, #3-737, 7w5d no HB :( D&C
    Ivf #2 June ER 6/13 ET 6/18 1 blast 2 morulas
    6dp5dt - BFP!
    Beta 6/27 - 146
  • I'm doing it when I get a baby.
    Yes, I'm pregnant now, but for whatever reason, I want my LO with me for my big Thank You.
  • I bought the office bagels/ cream cheese and coffee. I went to Panera and they have the coffee totes-worked out pretty well. I second guessed it too, just bc of all we had spent, but the office staff and nurses were great-and not sure if I could have made it through some of the stressful times without their support. I also work in healthcare at a hospital-we love when our patients bring us food!!!
    TTC naturally since Nov 2010.
    Diagnosed with PCOS in June of 2012
    Started seeing a RE June 2012
    HSG showed a block left tube
    Hubby's SA showed a slightly low count everything else ok
    Three rounds of Clomid/IUI-all three rounds IUI were cancelled because follicles never matured.
    Starting injections for IVF Dec. 1st. Praying for the Christmas gift of a lifetime!!!

    11/30 Baseline U/S and bloodwork-everything looks great!
    12/1 Start Stims
    12/11 ER
    16R 7M 7F

    12/16 ET

    12/26 Beta #1 364
    12/28 Beta #2 758
    12/31 Beta #3 2249

    12/31 Ultrasound showed...TWINS!!!!!!

    2/4 Ultrasound showed one baby with HR of 174 and one angel baby.


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  • I have brought our nurses different little things throughout our process to show them how much I appreciate them explaining everything to me and taking their time with me.  I am a nurse in l&d and know how much we all love to receive things from our patients. They're always so appreciative when I bring things and it just makes me feel good, hoping it was making for good karma for our transfer. Lol. 

    Me (29) DH (34) married 11/24/2007 TTC for 2 1/2 years 3/11 9 wk m/c d&c 6/11 ectopic pregnancy methotrexate 11/11 5 wk m/c 6/12 5 wk m/c 8/12 hysteroscopy followed by several rounds of close monitoring and clomid 1/13 ER 18 mature, 15 fertilized, 11 after 5 day growth, PGD testing 6 girls, 2 boys 2/14/13 transfer of two embeds 1 girl 1 boy 2/25 beta --171, progesterone low 9, changed from suppositories to pio 2/27 beta #2--392, progesterone 21.9 yea it's working!
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