Just got the chromosome results- not what I wanted to hear

SA1112

I got the call this morning from my doctor that I've been waiting for for almost 4 weeks. I found out there was a translocation between chromosomes 13 & 14, which was the cause of the miscarriage. Apparently translocations can be spontaneous or they can be inherited. My husband and I now have to go get our chromosomes drawn to see if we are carriers and speak to a genetic counselor. While I'm glad to have an answer for what caused the miscarriage, it's hard to hear that it may be something that is passed on from one of us and may affect all of our pregnancies. I know there's a chance it could have been random but with this being my second loss I'm not that optimistic. We also found out that we were having a boy It makes it so real and while I'm glad to know the gender, it does make it that much harder. We lost our son. So many emotions right now....thanks for letting me get it all out. 

dragonfly711

So so sorry I'm still waiting for ours to come back. I am hoping to have some closure when they come back but I know the chance that it can come back normal.

Good luck and I am glad that you are able to get some answers.

cpm1223

I am so sorry that the results weren't what you wanted. I hope that everything goes well with the testing and that you aren't carriers.

I know what you mean about knowing the gender making it more real, and harder. I felt the same way when we found out, its heartbreaking to think "we would have had a little boy/girl"....

T&P and lots of hugs to you!

PinkCamino

I'm so sorry you didn't get the results you wanted. FX that you are not carriers ((HUGS))

valigrl21

I am so sorry! ((Hugs))

Sky08

I am so sorry for your loss.  I know how you feel about finding out the gender of the baby and know that there was a chromosome issue.  I am feeling the same way.  Although my situation is a little bit different because my doctor said our chromosome issue is very rare and I have about 1% chance of it happening again, I am scared.  We were having a boy too.  I hope your testing goes well and you can find some peace soon.  I am so sorry for your loss.

lizok22

Just got my results today and they were normal and I don't feel good about Them because now I feel like it was definitely my fault and I am rehashing everything I did again.

 

SA1112

lizok22:

Just got my results today and they were normal and I don't feel good about Them because now I feel like it was definitely my fault and I am rehashing everything I did again.

 

 

Thanks everyone for the encouraging words. I really appreciate the support

Lizok22- I'm sure it was hard to hear that everything was normal- try not to blame yourself- it was nothing you did. Are you going to have any other blood work done to determine if there may be another cause like a clotting disorder or something like that?

Linz-E

Im sorry to hear that. I hope this process goes quickly for you so you can  develop a plan and move on. Take care. 

mj4106

I am so sorry for your losses!  I'm still waiting for our results and have another 2 weeks of waiting.  I'm looking for some closure, but I am afraid of the results too.  

With all my heart, I wish you the best for a healthy pregnancy when you try again.  Good luck to you!   

SarahMeyer0823

So sorry honey I hope they were both just unfortunate randoms