Unexpected news (pregnancy mentioned)

socialwkrsweetie

So today I had a routine follow up with my rheumatologist for my lupus and when my doctor walked in she was sporting a very pronounced bump and I burst into tears. I felt terrible afterwards because I just saw her 3 months ago and she had just gotten engaged, so I was NOT expecting her to now be married and pregnant.  She's by far my biggest advocate for all things medical, so it was embarrassing to say the least. She was awesome, as usual, and said she understood and gave me a hug.  I never get this way. I feel silly talking about this to other people, so thanks for listening. I really have such a profound respect for all of you going through this.  Most longer than me.  Thanks for the support.

YouMe&Bax

I had that reaction when I went to my OB to start exploring IF - I was okay when I saw her, but when she asked how long we'd been trying I burst into tears.  She, like your doctor, was amazing - but it made me feel awful.  (((HUGS))) I hope you have a better day - sorry you had to go through that. 

jfb29

I'm sorry you were caught off guard - that is never fun!  I'm glad your doc is supportive though.  I won't lie - I'm a little afraid of going to my gynie tomorrow for my annual and am afraid I will burst into tears with everything that has been going on....HUGS!!!!!

Achrissy557

Something similar happened to me a few weeks ago at my appnt with my regular dr, I was there for a physical and she asked if me I was on any medicine and before I could answer I said " well...." And she said "Are you trying to get pregnant?" And I burst into tears. I was sick at the time, felt awful and my head was pounding so that made me feel 10 times worse. I apologized and she was great and i think this is the reason I am very very selective with who I share our IF journey with and I think I just felt "safe" with her being a dr and everything. Dont beat yourself up and i think crying helps us release our feelings. Sometimes we just have to get it out . 

AustinAg03

I'm sorry she bump bombed you...those are never fun.  Just happened to me when I saw my cousin's wife the other day.  Had no idea she was expecting and wham!, 6 months pregnant bump in my face.  (((hugs))))

babydreams13

Oh man.  I am waiting for the day this happens to me.  usually its people telling me over the phone they are pregnant so I can be normal while on the phone.  In person and not expecting it is another thing.  Not to mention I had 5 baby showers this month! Sorry.  

futurehuber

Sorry you had a rough day, hugs!

socialwkrsweetie

Thanks everyone!  H brought me reese's (my favorite) and I'm feeling a lot better today!

xtina78

I'm sorry you had to go through that. I hate feeling vulnerable to other people's pregnancy status all the time. I'm glad you ate the Reese though and are feeling better!

socialwkrsweetie

xtina78:

I'm sorry you had to go through that. I hate feeling vulnerable to other people's pregnancy status all the time. I'm glad you ate the Reese though and are feeling better!

 I was totally eating my feelings but decided to give myself a break because it was the first time I did feel vulnerable about other people's pregnancies.  My best friend is currently in her third trimester and I've been fine.  I think it was the surprise bump that caught me off guard.  Oh well. At least I'm over the first one. 

Jzyla

Ugh. Sorry to hear: that sounds hard. I totally understand your reaction though. I'm sure she completely understood. If not, we totally do.

My (sarcastic/joking) solution? Maybe pregnant ladies should have to announce themselves before entering a room. Instead of shocking and upsetting those of us who weren't prepared, they could yell "I'm coming in with a bump - look out." and then enter the room verrryyyy slowly. And backwards.  :P  

  

(I'm not trying to poke fun at you - just at how strange my own infertile world has become... hopefully this doesn't come across as offensive) 

 

nicole336

Sorry you were surprised

 

I also have lupus and seem to be on the same time frame as you. I'm finally ready to talk to my doctor about further fertility testing. Is there anything special they checked for you because of the lupus?