Reintro and a question

xtina78

Hi everyone. I've intro'd on here before but have never posted consistently. We've been TTC for about 2.5 years with several breaks in treatments b/c of frustration, sadness, money ... we finally did our third IUI last month and I actually got my first BFP but it appears to be a c/p as my betas are not increasing. They told me to stop the progesterone and await a heavy period. The nurse I talked to couldn't tell me if we could do another cycle next month or not.

My question is, if you've had a c/p, have you had to take time off work? I'm kind of a wreck. My work is intensely emotional (I'm a psychiatrist) and I'm having trouble being there a 100% for my patients. The problem is, if I'm not here, then they can't see anyone which is probably worse.

At least I can have a drink tonight.

katib77

First off big (((HUGS))) to you, I am so sorry for your loss.  I have also had to break from treatment due to money (it's taken us two and a half years to have five treatment cycles due to OOP) and got my first BFP ever last cycle...I also had a c/p and m/c.  My period, while more crampy then normal was not heavier.  And it was the same length for full flow as normal, with just a few extra days of spotting.  

But emotionally - yes I needed time off work.  I took Tuesday- Saturday off (I work retail so it was really only three days of missed work but they totally understood and were supportive of the time needed and it didn't "count against" me for calling in "sick".  I cried everyday (at least a little, sometimes a lot) for a good six days straight.  Take the time you need.  It's hard.  If you need, even have your husband call the HR dept himself to explain the situation because I know I cried just to call and say I wasn't coming in and why.  

As for trying right away again.  I just had my WTF appointment with my RE (see post a few below) and he said we could try again next cycle no problem (you only need to wait if you're further along...like 6-8 weeks).  So my c/p started on Feb. 2nd and I can cycle again as soon as I get my next period.  Sadly, we will again need to wait several months due to money but it's nice to have answers.  

Welcome back to the board, I hope we can be of some support - but also know I started spending time on the TTCAL board because there are some topics that only the loss girls will get.  I've stopped going there daily now because I'm emotional not thinking about it every day.  But it's a great resource. 

socialwkrsweetie

I just wanted to say I'm sorry for your loss. While I have never experienced a loss  I also work in psych (inpatient as a social worker) and while not being there for your patient's completely might be hard for them, I think you need to take care of yourself and maybe take a day or two at least to recover both emotionally and physically.  Could you reschedule some of your patient's or see if a colleague could provide coverage for you? Again, I'm sorry you have to go through all this and I hope it all works out.  ((hugs))

scbedi

I really wanted to say that I'm so sorry for your loss! I work as an inpatient psych nurse so I know the importance of being available for your patients. Whenever we have a patients who is pregnant I have to work hard to not have any counter transference issues. It is so important to take care of yourself so you can take care of your patients. I'll have to echo pp about rescheduling or having a colleague cover?

katib77

Sorry, clearly I started my response before reading the second half of your last paragraph.  I'm sure it's harder in your position to take off but I agree with PP about seeing if you can get a colleague to cover or move scheduling around.  I know you want to be there for your patients, but you also need to take care of your self first and foremost so that you can be there for them.

jfb29

I have no advice to you but just wanted to say I'm sorry and give you a big HUG!

xtina78

Thanks so much ladies for your kind words. It helps to be reminded I'm not alone in all of this. I'm looking forward to getting to know you. I'm also glad that there are a few of us on here in the mental health field. 

 I know I probably should take time off, and maybe I will once I start bleeding (I just stopped progesterone yesterday) so who knows when that will be. For right now, I think I am going to work, if only to keep myself partially distracted.

 I'm not a frequent crier and I hadn't cried until yesterday. I broke down when telling one of my supervisors. I did feel better afterwards.