Ok so any advice or positive words?
My son was born on Thanksgiving 2012.. I am now due Oct 31st 2013. Im only 4 weeks so I am not ready to tell people close to me yet and I just found out today because I missed my period. My fianc? and I had talked about having two babies close but I did not think we would have them this close. Don't get me wrong, we are both very excited it is just a lot to take in. We have a wedding we are planning and saving for Oct 4th 2014. So by this time we will have two wonderful babies under 2. My son is such an angel and I love him so much I do not want to take away from the attention of him. I was VERY na?ve in thinking we wouldn't get pregnant so soon and had planned on going on birth control in the next two weeks. So maybe it is fate? I guess I am not ready for the "what were you thinking? How will you two adfford this? Can you guys handle this" lectures. Not to mention my sister whi is two years older has been trying for a year and stopped talking to me when I told her I was pregnant with my son. We did not talk until I was 7 months and she had found out she was pregnant.. She then miscarried at 10weeks. I am so scared to tell her and lose her again. We also only have a 2 bedroom house and will need to now buy a home to fit our growing family.
Well, thanks for listening.. or reading my vent.
Re: help! pregnant again..
I agree with most everything the pp said.
Also just wait to tell people, if they ask why you're pg again- tell them that it was your choice. You dont own anyone a explaination it's your life. And you don't need to get a new place just because you have a 2 bedroom. babies dont need that much space. Maybe in a few or 5 years you may want to get a bigger place but you'll be fine.
Well...you were having sex and not using birth control, so you can't actually be surprised that you're pregnant again, right?
I'm sure 2 under 1 will be challenging and people will comment on it for sure, but what are you going to do? You're in it now and I'm sure you'll manage. You don't need to buy a new house - plenty of kids share rooms - and your sister will eventually be happy for you, even if she's frustrated now. good luck!
Yes, I took a test this morning and the line was SO faint I thought my mind was playing ticks on me. I had to hold it in the sun light to see it.. So we went out to get a digital one and it came back pregnant!
I know the risk was there but we used BC on and off and I guess having multiple people around me trying to get pregnant and not left me na?ve that we do it once and we get pregnant.. ya know? We discussed it so yes it will have been mostly a planned pregnancy its just the initial shock right now! Thank you everyone for feedback and encouragement.
We got the same thing from people when we got pregnant with ds. Honestly, we were trying. Everytime someone said "wow you're going to be busy!" I'd simply reply "Well we wouldnt have been trying if we werent ready." Granted that isn't exactly your situation but if you get negative comments brush them off. People show their concern in very a&^hole-ish ways sometimes.
As for your sister, you may just have to explain to her that you're sorry that it worked out this way but this is your life and if you and your fiance want to expand your family then you have that right to. IMO, you cant live your life for other people and what they want or dont want.
People will always make comments about children being close together. My boys are 13 and 14 months apart. #1 was a preemie and on a monitor for the first year and a half of his life. You learn to adapt to the situations and ignore people.
Sorry about your sister, it must be hard on you and her.