MIL insists on meeting the babysitter (Vent)

Mrsosh

WTH?  My in-laws are visiting this week, and I've just about had it with all of MIL's questions, suggestions, and demands when it comes to my son.

Now she is insisting that she meet our babysitter.  DH and I searched long and hard and finally found someone that we feel comfortable leaving our child with and MIL is concerned because she's not licensed.  She wanted to know what questions we asked the babysitter when we interviewed her and what her specific answers were.  She even tried to say that this week would be a good time for us to take the baby over so that the sitter can meet him.  I am not returning to work until Jan. so we have a little while before I planned on taking him to meet the sitter.

I'm just tired of her overbearing nature.  She knew when we were going through the process of trying to find a sitter, and she said nothing.  That would have been the time to express any concerns she had about us choosing a qualified childcare provider.

Vent over.  Thanks for reading!

tmbuchmann

Wow - you are his parents, she isn't.  Tell her to get over herself.

Tinsleigh75

uh yeah that is insane.  she has no say in your child care choices.  perhaps DH needs to talk to her?

mrs.h0507

so tell her no. just say " MIL, this is the person we chose for OUR child, and the decision is final, you will not be meeting her. There is no need."

tanny05

Just say no and don't allow her to meet your caregiver.

Its really none of her business (unless you are comfortable with it). 

RedBrideNC

I agree it's YOUR child and therefore YOUR decision.

aforst

I would tell her NO, absolutely not.  It's your child, not hers.  It's none of her business.  end of story.  Really, your DH needs to tell her, it's his mother.

Mrsosh

mrs.h0507:

so tell her no. just say " MIL, this is the person we chose for OUR child, and the decision is final, you will not be meeting her. There is no need."

I wish I could be that direct.  I did tell her that we feel very comfortable with our sitter (and of course she wanted to know specifically what we liked about her), and that we wouldn't choose anyone that we didn't trust to take good care of our son for the 3-4 hours that he will be there each day.  She went on to suggest that I pick DS up early from the sitter one day to "catch her off guard" and really see what's going on. 

It just never ends with her.

brandonswife07

Mrsosh:

mrs.h0507:

so tell her no. just say " MIL, this is the person we chose for OUR child, and the decision is final, you will not be meeting her. There is no need."

I wish I could be that direct.  I did tell her that we feel very comfortable with our sitter (and of course she wanted to know specifically what we liked about her), and that we wouldn't choose anyone that we didn't trust to take good care of our son for the 3-4 hours that he will be there each day.  She went on to suggest that I pick DS up early from the sitter one day to "catch her off guard" and really see what's going on. 

It just never ends with her.

what a nut!  what does she think is going on that you are going to "catch" her doing?

Jen0414

What does your DH say about this since it is his Mom?

Mrsosh

I have no idea what my MIL thinks I'll catch the sitter doing or not doing!

This conversation took place this morning just as DH was leaving for work, so we haven't had a chance to discuss it.  But on his way out the door, I made it clear that I was not happy with what his mom was saying.