MFM practice ruined the surprise...

Ivee4

So at our growth scan last week the tech as soon as she walked into the room said " So your having boy/girl twins right?" We told her it was a surprise and shrugged it off. Later the doctor came in and was telling us we could have the rest of our appts with my OB since we were having a complication free "fraternal" pregnancy. So I am pretty sure they ruined the surprise. Our twins are Di/Di so we were pretty sure they were fraternal but to be so adamant.

Mrs.Greg

Omg! I'm so sorry the surprise was ruined for you!! We didn't know if our babies were boys or girls until they were born. I would have been disappointed if someone just blurted it out and then didn't even care that they did. But, wow, congrats on a boy and a girl!! Exciting!!

Dragonfly1226

That sucks! I am so sorry they ruined it. But if they really did ruin it, congratulations on team purple.

Ivee4

Thanks on the congrats ladies! It stinks because we could really celebrate since we aren't certain but now I worry that "moment" during delivery will be anticlimatic. Only time will tell.

PurrCrasher

I'm shocked that they could be so careless! I'm sorry that happened. If indeed they were right and the surprised is ruined I will tell you that the good news is that boy/girl twins are AWESOME! I love love love having one of each. I'm sure I would have been happy regardless but I just absolutely love every minute of having these two amazing little people.

leapgirl8

I'm surprised this doesn't happen more often. I would find it very hard to keep straight which patients I was supposed to be keeping secrets from.

I don't think anything about the birth will be anti-climactic Most people know the genders beforehand and it is PLENTY exciting! And add me to the list of people who love having B/G twins - it is awesome.

macchiatto

Aw, I'm sorry! that stinks.

I'm sure the birth will still be plenty exciting though.

katiebenes

aww. I would have cried and had a b* fit... but I'm highly emotional normally 

I think I'll bring a post-it note for the monitors of the u/s machine : WE DON'T WANT TO KNOW SEX

I'm still weeks away from them seeing it though, so I'll probably forget. 

megemoney

Fraternal is di/di.  Fraternal doesn't mean boy/girl.  The Olsen twins are Fraternal. 

Rvnsgrl81

megemoney:

Fraternal is di/di.  Fraternal doesn't mean boy/girl.  The Olsen twins are Fraternal. 

This. I am having fraternal twin BOYS. Have you had your a/s and it was in your chart or are you going off the fact they are fraternal? Fraternal means you have a chance at one of each not that they are for sure unless an a/s has been performed and the sexes were noted in your chart. If you did and the nurse ruined it by blurting it out like that, then that does suck and I am sorry the surprise was ruined, but if it is based on the fact they are simply fraternal than you can't go on that alone.

NetPetal

Having it ruined is our worst nightmare!  So sorry it happened to you. 

anakah

For me, knowing the genders beforehand did not make the birth anti-climatic for me.  It didn't matter that I had an u/s every month and was reassured each time what their genders were, I wasn't convinced that they weren't wrong until they were actually born. 

amy1007

Mary Kate and Ashley are fraternal?????? There is no way!!

megemoney

amy1007:

Mary Kate and Ashley are fraternal?????? There is no way!!

I don't have any scientific journals to reference, but on one of those "behind the scenes" type shows that was on when they were finally coming to adulthood... talked all about their childhood and all that.  Said that it was a common misconception that they are Identical and in fact are actually Fraternal. 

megemoney

megemoney:

amy1007:

Mary Kate and Ashley are fraternal?????? There is no way!!

I don't have any scientific journals to reference, but on one of those "behind the scenes" type shows that was on when they were finally coming to adulthood... talked all about their childhood and all that.  Said that it was a common misconception that they are Identical and in fact are actually Fraternal. 

ETA: Regardless, Fraternal does not mean boy/girl twins.  It means di/di twins. 

https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/fraternal

https://multiples.about.com/cs/funfacts/a/twinzygosity.htm

redhotchili83

We saw DS#1's junk on the ultrasound at his 20 week ultrasound even tho we didn't want to know what we were having.  it was kind of fun anyway to not know 100%. So you still don't have confirmation that its a boy and a girl.  That moment will still be fun

raraavis28

Aww boo yo ruining the surprise! At every u/s we had to remind the tech that we already knew....you think they'd be more careful w/ so many ppl going Team Green these days! But congrats on your little boy and girl!