Why is everyone else more excited than I am?!

MandyDel8386

Hey everyone.  I need some advise... 

This is my first pregnancy.  I think everyone else is much more excited about me being pregnant.  To be honest...I'm getting a little annoyed with everyone being OVERLY excited.  "OMG! HOW ARE YOU FEELING!?"  If one more person asks me how I'm feeling, I think I might blow a gasket.  I'm not even showing and somebody tried to feel my belly and it really made me mad!!  Am I being overly sensitive?  Are these the hormones?  Am I just jealous because everyone one else gets to get on with their lives and mine is changing forever?  I don't know what to think, I don't know how to feel... all I know is I have a million and one emotions and I can't seem to stick to one for longer than a few seconds before it's something else.  Super confused, super emotional...  has anyone else been there?? 

staceymack

I am not overly excited. I am happy, but not jumping up and down for joy or anything. I was actually talking to a MD I work with about feeling this way after he mentioned his wife was the same when she was pg. Everyone has a right to feel one way or another. Just because we aren't suuuuper excited doesn't mean we're wrong for feeling the way we do. I may get more excited as time goes on, but if not that doesn't mean I love LO any less. 

BluEyedBlondie

Very natural I would say partly hormones and just partly not wanting to be bothered. Not trying to be rude but I would def get used to it esp once you start showing. I had random ppl come up an touch my belly and they didn't even know me, very awkward an a bit scary... Just inform ppl that you dont want to be touched lol. Goodluck hun things will get better!

Jasmineeelizabeth

I could have written this post a few months ago. I don't think I let myself get excited because I was scared that something could go wrong. I would get mad when people touched my belly, or kept talking about how excited I must be because I felt like I needed to process it all through first, and know things were going to be okay before people got all excited.

I can say that this slowly gets better, once he/she starts kicking and you make it past major milestones it'll be less annoying.. And then more annoying when your towards the end and are sick of talking about it.

Good luck  

ldpm

I am happy. This baby is very wanted. But I am not super excited. I am nervous as I have started feeling awfully nauseous and I was hyperemetic with my first. I don't want to go thru that again..I also have a lot of nerves about changes family i.come, i am transitioning to work from home, my daughter's reactions... It's ok to have these feelings. There are a lot of changes.

shakes

There is nothing more permanent than having a child. It can take some getting used to. A lot of times I think we expect to feel nothing but joy and bliss when we are pregnant but that isn't always the case. Is there anyone you can talk to candidly about your concerns or mixed emotions? You have every right in the world to tell people to mind their space. Sometimes our fears get the best of it. I will say though that having a baby doesn't mean your life stops. It's changing but you are also going on with your life. Just with a new role. I sometimes miss my child free days, that's perfectly normal and acceptable. But if you find resentment and anger are truly replacing every other emotion it may help to seek a professional to talk to for a bit. GL.

MandyDel8386

Thank you girls!  You have no idea how much it helps just to know that there's other people who've been there.  Don't get me wrong, I am happy...just not as ecstatic as everyone thinks I should be.  I can tell I'm going to be using these message boards a lot over the next few months!  Thanks again!

inthelost

Your feelings are very valid. My pregnancy was very unplanned so needless to say I was less than "thrilled" when I found out, in fact I cried. a LOT. I had to have several weeks to process and come to terms with my pregnancy. Now, I am happy about the baby. And I do want my baby very, very, much, but I'm not exactly jumping up and down for joy very much either. Having a child is one of the biggest and most life altering experiences that you'll go through. I think this will change though the closer it gets here. It's perfectly normal and OK to feel the way you do. And hormones are a *** too and can affect how you feel. My hormones are so unreal sometimes! I dared anyone to look cross eyed at me...So don't worry if you're not totally psyched yet: you'll get there.

Oh and showing OR NOT no one should ever "touch" your belly without your permission! this would really piss me off so I don't blame you. 

katiebenes

I flipped when my one aunt went to hug my belly - I'm not a small girl and she was hugging my fat... I was like NOOOO that's not the babies that's my flab. 

sbartl

I totally agree, my pregnancy was planned and I am obviously excited, but I'm also dealing with being pregnant. Other people hear we are pregnant and just think of the cute little baby they will get to play with in 8 months... meanwhile we have to grow that little human and its not exactly the easiest process in the world!

HisChamaoleGirl

While I am excited I am also cautious about my excitement because our loss was early. As for someone touching your stomach, if this happens to me I will then touch their stomach to increase the awkwardness. But I'm sort of bitchy lol