Overreaching Parent...

txaggster

Okay, I'm going on a slight rant. My father, who I have had less than a great relationship with the last 10 years, took the liberty of shooting down the one boy name DH and I liked. He's been calling the baby a girls name for months until I finally told him we were having a boy. Then he switched gears and named him something else, so every time he references the baby he calls him by that name. I told him last week that we actually liked a few different name of our own and he had the nerve to tell me "it was prissy and that maybe I should go about picking a name so his grandchild didn't get his a%! kicked on the school yard. If a name doesn't associate with rodeo, dirt or wranglers, it's nothing to him." I finally told him, in so many words, that it was OUR child to raise and he skulked off like a little kid who didn't get his way. Has ANYONE else had insanely overbearing parents?! 

tiffletons518

My MIL went as far as to tell me that she would be disappointed if we had another girl (we have 2). When we found out it was a boy, she asked about names. We mentioned that we wanted to honor H's dad in some way, he passed away almost 2 years ago. She then made a snide remark along the lines of "why would you want to name your kid after my a-hole ex-husband". She's a real peach.

AutumnOracle

Grandparents?  His g-folks insisted our kid would get beat up with either of our name choices.  Our girl name was to gender-nuetral for a girl and our boy middle name was terrible.  They kept pushing the name William even though I repeatedly told her I did not like William and I did not like that generation of names.  I had to tell them that they'd had their chance to name a baby and now it was ours.

flerlgirl

My mother has turned into some kind of insane baby hellbeast. She has had no opinions on the name but every single other effing thing we do is wrong. Sorry you had to deal with it

skio

My parents are cool and can give their opinions when asked without being toolboxes.

But your situation is exactly why we don't share names with H's side. I don't trust them to keep their mouths shut because they are all very strongly opinionated.

I suggest you stop sharing name ideas with your father. And if he throws a fit about it, tell him that he hasn't provided any constructive advice, so you've chosen to stop sharing your choices with him. And continue to let him know that it's your kid and your decision.

RedCherry1109

Yep! My grandmother has torn my family apart because she hated the fact that my girl's name would be after my other grandmother. they have never gotten along and she didn't think it was right for me to name it after her. She didn't care if it was named after anyone else, just not her. Since then my family has been torn apart because she threw a fit about it. Come to find our LO is a boy so it didn't matter what the girls name was.

andiabbs

thankfully, my parents have been super supportive on the name and liked the name me and the BF came up with.

Sadly, my BF's side of the family (his dad's GF and his OVERLY opinionated grandmother) have not. We also received a list on "appropriate names" usually being named after someone one THEIR side. (We had already decided, if we couldnt find a family name on either side we could agree on...mine was Jackson and his was William, we would find a non-family name)

ckettenb

This is why we don't plan to share our name before DD is born. People suck.

txaggster

HAHA, oh my! I'm sooo glad that I'm not the only one dealing with crazy relatives! I love the idea of no longer telling anyone our name choices, especially once our little one is named! Once he comes out it will be take it or leave it, that's his name! 

  

mamainVA2013

I honestly don't think anyone in our family will have any issues with the names we have chosen, but we have decided to keep the names to ourselves until he or she is born. My grandmother has called occassionally to suggest some names, but we have told her that we were thinking about using family names so I think her intentions are good.