Husbands and their emotions

Mjbcreations

Anyone else have a husband or bd who is keeping their emotions to themselves lately with the discovery  of the pregnancy? I have been married a year and a half now and we have been trying for 4 months. We had a miscarriage our first try but I am 5 wks 2d now at this point and in my heart I feel this is the real deal. I am excited also nervous but I feel he is so quiet and distracted lately I'm not sure I like it. We have talked about it a few times and he says things like do you think I'll make a good daddy? It's breaking my heart to hear his doubt because I'm emotional and I'm not sure it's normal. If anyone else has gone through this please let me know how you handled it, what was the outcome and will he open up? Ps. Just some background info we went through a very rough 1st year of marriage but decided 6 months ago we would put it in the past because we want to make it work. Ever since he was on the baby making track until we found out. Now he is silently freaking out and so am I. Any advise would be greatly appreciated. : /I want to be excited but I want to have a husband who is excited more..

countrygurl0101

Nothing kills your happiness quicker then someone that you think should be exicted about your upcoming LO, not being as happy as you think. We tried for 5 months and we really really wanted to get pregnant. Talked about it a lot. But when i broke the news to him, he was very quiet I had to make sure he hadn't passed out. We both have boys from previous relationships so were not new to the baby thing. But it had to sink in. We both still worry because I have had miscarried twice before years ago. But once it sunk in, he became the big hearted mushy macho man I fell in love with. He kisses my belly talks to it. Says I Love YA'LL when texting now. It just takes time. Talk to him let him know your worried too. Just take it easy, DON'T stress. Have him help out some more might actually keep his mind occupied and not worrying so much. Trust me all he needs is a little reassurance. HE WILL BE A GREAT DAD. Good luck and T&P are headed your way.

Southerndancinmama

Don't worry it is completely natural to feel a little overwhelmed at this stage in your life. And all people react differently to this huge change. I agree he need some reassurance ce that he will be a great dad. He has plenty of time to get used to the idea ;

HisChamaoleGirl

My husband was very reluctant to get excited about our pregnancy bc it is so close to our loss. After our appt today he is getting more excited about it since the doctor said things look great.

grace_smith03

Oh, honey.  Men are the weaker sex for sure.  And when we're pregnant, we're a bag of hormones, so it's not a good mix.  Have you sat him down and told him, listen, i know we suffered a loss, but people go on to have kids without issue. Tell him that you're having issues with hormones, and REALLY need his support and for him to be a cheerleader right NOW.  Positive thoughts, positive energy, right?  

Good luck. FYI, i had two losses, have two great kids, and just went to 2nd tri with this pregnancy.

Happy and healthy 9 months to you. 

Mjbcreations

Thanks laDies. This all really helped  

 We haven't been to the doctors yet either so maby it's just still surreal. Hope this is the case! Praying for it : ) 

sltitzer

My husband was the same way---quiet and not too excited for the first few weeks.  I think it just took a little while to sink in.  Once we had a dr. appt, found out everything was fine, etc. he got much more excited--rubs my belly, talks about baby names, etc.  I think it just takes some time to process for some people (honestly I didn't believe it myself for the first week, either, it just took him longer!)

dimples128

My husband has not shown much emotion yet. We had an ectopic and had to do IVF. He is worried and had told me once we get through the first tri, he will relax a bit. Try not to over think your husband's emotions. Men show emotions differently anyways and just because he isn't jumping up and down with joy doesn't mean he isn't excited about the baby.

Mjbcreations

This soUnds so much like my husband it's scary. But good scary. It means he will most likely come around. Thank you for the response I feel much better about it and I think he is just letting it sink in. 

katiebenes

my DH was petrified. once he saw the twins at the first u/s his hand went cold, but now he's way more excited. because you had a previous mc, he might not want to get too excited right away (staying strong for you just in case) 

He may always worry if he will be a good dad. Just reassure him that he'll be a wonderful dad - you wouldn't have tried to get pregnant if you thought he'd be a bad one