I'm a pastors wife of a large (2000+) congregation. Many people are asking me if anyone is planning a shower. Yes, several smaller ones. And they are asking me for guest lists. I dont want to name people because some will get invited and some people will get left out. I wish they would just post a note in the bulletin that says they are having one lunch and anyone that wants to come can. That way no one will feel pressured into coming as well. Guess I'm not looking for answer I'm just to the point were I dont even want to deal with it!