Currently we have summer and holiday visitation. The CO was established in between DHs back to back deployments and it seemed to be in the best interest of SS to establish it this way. Any time DH has leave and goes to where SS lives BM grants visits outside of what is written.
SS is 9. He has been expressing a lot lately that he wants to move in with DH. He isnt saying it out of anger towards his BM or bc DH is promting him. He always brings it up to DH first. DH asks why he wants to move and other than saying he misses his dad he says that he is bored at home and knows there are other things to see in the world. He lives on Guam and every time he comes to visit us he does more than just the regular "go to the beach." I'm not saying we are Disneyland parents, but I am saying there is more opportunity in our area than there is on island.
DH wants to bring up SS coming to us for a school year to see how it works out. Now is PERFECT bc DH and I are both in non deployable units. We arent going anywhere. I know that will be one of her concerns.
How do you think DH should bring this topic up to BM? He isnt going to surprise her and drop court documents on her or anything like that. Right now he just wants to have a conversation with her. I dont want to be a part of it bc I feel as if it is something they should decide together as his parents. I support my husband in what he wants, but I also know that BM has expressed when I talk to her about SS she feels I overstep my boundaries as a SM so I am backing off.
If you read this far, THANKS!
BFP #1 11/07/2012 EDD 07/09/2013 M/C 11/22/2012
BFP #2 02/05/2013 EDD 09/19/2013 Arrived via c-section 09/27/2013