My DH and I found out we're expecting about 5 days ago. We had been trying for about 5 months or so, and are SO excited! He came home from work the other day and told me a sad story about a coworker of his who was also expecting, and found out that his wife lost the baby early on. Now, suddenly everytime I log onto the bump I'm noticing more and more posts about losing baby. I feel terrible for these women, and my fears of being one of them is suddenly taking over my life. Is it normal to be afraid of that so early on? And is there anything I can do to help make sure that doesn't happen to us? I know I am being paranoid, but I think this has quickly become my biggest fear!
Best of wishes and condolences to people who are or have experienced this. You ladies are so strong!
Re: Positive tests and brand new worries
I knew being pregnant was going to bring worries, but wow do I also feel paranoid. Hopeful to get past the riskiest period...
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That's the double edged sword that is the internet. You've got the world at your fingertips, and that includes horror stories. Try your best to stay calm and positive for you, your partner and your new growing LO. Congrats on your positive, and stay away from the scary stories. It's also painful for some those posting their grief on (albeit public) online forums to think there are a lot of lurkers and rubber-neckers.
You'll have some days of high anxiety and some days where you feel totally fine and trust your body to do its job. On those high anxiety days, avoid the internet and googling every negative symptom and signs of miscarriage. best of luck!
The fear is understandable. There is really not much you can do at this point other than following the regular no-nos and taking your prenatals. Also, if this fear is overtaking your life maybe read the miscarriage posts in moderation or stay away from them for few days. It doesn't mean you are cold hearted and I am sure your heart goes out to every girl here that is experiencing mc but you need to try and stress less for the sake of the baby and yourself. So maybe read the happy posts, the updates where everything turns out fine and hopefully the fear will become manageble or even subside a little.
Besides you have like a 75% chance of everything going well Its pretty good odds you know...
BFP #1 11/07/2012 EDD 07/09/2013 M/C 11/22/2012
BFP #2 02/05/2013 EDD 09/19/2013 Arrived via c-section 09/27/2013
I agree with most of this, but have to point out that more like 99.5% of miscarriages happen in the first trimester, not 75%. Here are some statistics:
https://sites.google.com/site/miscarriageresearch/miscarriage-general
Once you are in your second trimester, you can relax greatly.
OP - all you can do is take healthy precautions and take care of yourself. The rest is out of your hands so try not to worry.
Perfectly said:)
Wishing you a happy & healthy 9months:)