Discipline

Ms.Jade

What / How are you doing with discipline? Once upon a time when I would say no to E it would stop her in her tracks. Now she barely pauses. Our philosophy from the beginning has been to baby proof the hell out of the house so that we don't have to follow her around saying "no" all of the time. That way when we did say no, it had an impact and we used it for things like touching the fan. It worked - for a while. Now when we say no she just keeps going. Any suggestions besides re-direction which seems to be the only thing that works now.

clstoblg

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but what seems to work for us is saying no and then if he keeps doing it i say "mommy said no" he usually knows this means business and will go on to something else on his own and I say "good job!"  If that doesn't work i say.  "Do you want to go to time out?" That sometimes works but time out is still kind of new thing so not always.  Then if he continues I put him in time out in a corner for 30 seconds.  Then i tell him at the end when mommy says no you have to listen

I don't harp on what he was doing because i figure he will never remember that. I just stick the the "no" and what the understanding of no is. If that makes sense.

aliciaroset

we pretty much never say no.

at this age, saying something ilke "I won't let you play with that. It's dangerous." or "That cabinet is not for you." and redirecting is all you can do.  

 We try to explain to her why she can't do something, even if she doesn't understand just yet. We of course have problems like her getting into the dog water, etc, but this is what works for us. Saying NO NO NO actually made it much worse.

With the fan touching example it's important that you are right there next to her. If she reaches out to touch it, block her hand and say "I won't let you touch the fan because it will hurt you." and then redirect. I don't think you can do more than that at this point. 

 

 

cantalopes24

We have the opposite philosophy. We don't really baby proof so they get that they can't go around touching everything. I say no firmly. If she's grabbing at something I pick it up and show it to her and say "No no, that's name of person it belongs to name of object, not for Lola. Why don't we go get xyz" and I either move it or her. Things like the oven I just say "OUCH HOT" forcefully and it startles her enough to get her to stop so I can redirect her. If she won't leave something alone I take her out of the room. Like the other day I was packing for vacation and she kept taking everything out of the suitcase so I zipped it shut and got her a bag and filled it with toys for her to take out and put back in and told her This is Mommys, no touch. This is Lola's suitcase, do you want to help pack?

pennysuedog

If you say no once and they keep doing it you need to pick them up and remove them from the situation.  Otherwise it is a game on how many times are they going to say no before they actually stop me.

blu-eyedwife

At this age I really think redirection is the only thing that's going to work.  A lot of what they're doing seems to be to provoke a reaction more than anything else.  They're testing their limits, but unfortunately they don't quite have the comprehension to understand not to do it in the first place!

Mrs. Mo

I agree with redirection. We started telling her "no" or saying "no no no." Now, anytime we tell her "no" she turns to us and says "no no no" while pointing her finger at us. UGH.

Elsa1984

We didn't baby proof at all. The only baby proofing that happens with her, is gating the two sets of stairs at IL's because she has yet to figure out how to go down them. 

We are trying to not say "no". If she is getting into anything dangerous, we say "owie!" Or "hot!" She likes to open the cabinet to the pots and pans and I say "that is mommy's toy, lets go find Gator's toys..." And sometimes she will find a toy on her own and other times I have to help her find one.  At this age, we are still redirecting....but not as often as when she was smaller. 

Ms.Jade

Thanks for the ideas. We'll keep redirecting. I always find it interesting the different baby proofing philosophies vs. different "no" philosophies.